My boyfriend and I have been dating off and on for a year, like we've broken up twice. We have problems, but we try to fix them because we care about each other. Right now we're in the middle of break up #3. I haven't seen or talked with him for 2 weeks. But I've been hanging out with one of his best friends a lot. He has a girlfriend, but he spends more time with me and he flirts with me a lot. We ended up fooling around a few times. I feel really weird about it. I regret it because it's something I shouldn't have done, but at the same time I wanted to with him. I think he feels the same because he's been acting weird too. I think I want to get back together with my boyfriend, but I don't know if I can after this. If he ever found out he'd hate both of us. I don't want to lie to him either. But I think I like his friend, but I can't allow myself because it won't happen. I feel so confused. Can any of this be fixed?
Update: So, I'm torn. I found out today that my boyfriend didn't love me as much as I thought he did. I have this gut feeling that he doesn't want to work it out anymore. I start to like his friend more, but it won't happen. He loves his girlfriend. It's so confusing.
7 months ago
Update: My eyes were opened and his friend was taking advantage of my delicate emotional state. My boyfriend and I are trying to work things out now. I told him about it and it'll take some time for him to get over that. Thanks everyone for the help.
7 months ago
Well you're in a rough spot. You def need to be honest with him. Look at it this way, you guys get back together then a couple months later he finds out from his friend. He'll feel betrayed, have trouble trusting you do you think that will solve your fighting problem. And chances are he may end up leaving for good.
BUT if your the one who comes out and tells him then straight forward then it will be easier for both of you. Granted it will still be hard for him but not as bad as if you hid it and he found out later from someone else. Either way its not going to be easy. It really all comes down to how much he means to you. If you think he's worth the trouble then tell him. The sooner the better. But if you think you'll only last a few months or not see him as being worth it then don't bother telling him or going back to him because all you will do is hurt him.
Thanks. He approached me and wanted to work things out. I remembered what you said and came clean about his friend and I. He took it better than I thought he would. He doesn't hate me, but it did hurt him and I feel terrible about that. But I do know now without a doubt I love him and there's nothing beyond friendship with his friend. - 7 months ago
Well first of all I think you really need to work out what you do want. If you keep breaking up with your ex then there's probably a reason for it and maybe your better off as friends if you care about each other. If you want to be with the best friend then you need to find where he stands after all he has a girlfriend and may not want to be with you. If you do get back with your ex I wouldn't tell him what you've been up to though
I think if you like the other guy his best friend you should go for him but if you like your boyfriend more you should go back to him but you can not tell him anything that has happened he will hate you forever and if the best friends girlfriend finds out. Well that would be bad for both of you like really bad cause you have done stuff with him which I know you really regretted but you still went ahead and did it. If I were you I would go with what your heart is saying you are still young and can make mistakes like that. Good Luck with whatever you choose.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 7 months ago
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