Here's the situation. I'm in a long term relationship, but feel like my current girlfriend may not be the right one for me. At the same time, another girl entered into my life that I've developed strong feelings for. It seems like she could be the one.
I get nervous and shy when she's around, and I think it shows a little. This new person seems so perfect. She's beautiful, easy going and has a great personality. And sometimes it seems like she has feelings for me as well. But this person is already married with a kid. Now I have no intention of breaking up a marriage, I'm just asking for opinions. Would you come clean with this person, just to see if there ever was a chance? I mean, what if she was unhappy in her marriage?
If she got a divorce, that would be cool. I'd have no problem with her being a mother or whatnot. But at the same time, she may be happily married. In which case I'd respect that, and just be grateful for just knowing her. I just really would like to know how she feels about me. What would you do?
Don't do anything. Especially since there's a child involved. It's her business whether she is or isn't happy in her marriage. Don't put her in a bad situation. You're way too old for that! This sounds like high school drama!
Do not try to break the marriage - you don't want your apparent soul mate to become your enemy overnight.
I think you should try and find out what part of society she comes from, and look for girls in that kind of social environment - perhaps you'll meet more "soul mates. "
She's married, marriages fail frequently enough without outside people mingling in their affairs. Let her be married, and only support the strength of the relationship with her husband.
At the same time, wake up and realize that you have been cheating on your girlfriend. Yes, I said cheating. Nothing physical has happened, but when you are thinking of your "beautiful, easy-going" FANTASY, then you are depriving your girlfriend of those thoughts. Be happy that you have a girlfriend at all. If she isn't the right one for you, then dump her, but Don't expect your dream girl to fall in love with you.
Don't count on your dream girl splitting up for you. Slap yourself silly, and run those adulterous thoughts from your brain.
You want her, and Don't put any pressure on her. If she is right for you, then it will work out in the end, but don't expect anything.
Thanks for your honesty. Trust me, I've slapped myself countless times. I work at a college, so I encounter beautiful women daily. But every other woman I talk to, meet or whatever it is, there's no attraction. So, why her? What is it about this one girl? I'm not asking for anyone's approval, I have no intention of cheating (in the physical sense). I was just curious as to what others would do in this situation. Would you want to know how she felt, or would you just live in doubt? - 7 months ago
Answerer
There may always be doubt, even if it is temporary. Doubt cannot be allowed to rule your life though, as soon as you begin to doubt, you risk losing other opportunities that are sliding by you. I note that you use the term "soul Mate" only as a singular noun, and it sounds like you think that there is only one "Soul Mate. " Just because you feel an attraction to her (sounds like a crush) it doesn't mean that she is definitely the one for you. - 7 months ago
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