Can you find a partner when you are lost yourself?

i think you have to love and know yourself in order for someone to love you.

i vote A but I don't completely agree I think there shud be a more middle choice, for me if you are able to have stability in ur life for the moment and near future then you are good. no one every completely noes themselfs

i think if one is at a weak unstable place in life it is not good to try to get in to the dateing game because I belive you are setting ur self up for failure.

I don't think I truly found myself until I found my current boyfriend. I'm a better person now because I realized that I didn't have to be the way I was before.

You can find a partner even if you're at a low point, but that doesn't mean it will be a good relationship. It's very easy to become dependent upon someone who helps you through a rough time, but what happens if he/she wants to leave? Some people will stay in an unhappy relationship because they don't know what to do otherwise. They have to cater to their partner and try make them happy just to keep them around. That's not happiness. That's not a worthwhile relationship. Your partner is supposed to add to your happiness, not be the base of it.

i don't think you can find a lasting partner if you don't know yourself first. if your both lost it's hell, it's like the blind leading the blind it doesn't work. however when your young you can grow with someone else while trying to find yourself but I really believe it is best to know who you are before you involve someone else.

You can be confused cause there called your other half for a reason. They complete you. no matter how independent you feel, that other person will make you feel whole. However you can't be an emotional wreck.

OK now I'm not going to be nice.

Why the f*** are you asking us f***face,go see a f***ing love doctor or something.

Of course not I'm a miserable f*** and I found a love got a kid and a fiance.

Basically for the most part, guys need to have their life complete, at any age, know themselves, more so than girls.

well certainly you don't have to "know yourself completely" to find a partner, as in my opinion, it is very rare, almost impossible, to know yourself completely. and who wants to be with someone who feels that they know them self completely anyway? would be boring and probably a little annoying I'd think . . . to me the joy of life (and life with someone else) is learning, evolving, changing even, yes, even failing at things. The challenge of figuring things out.

On the other hand, I think it can be too much pressure on a relationship and be harmful if you're casting them as the person who will make you whole; that they will fix your problems.

To me, some middle ground is probably the most realistic and healthy (again, this is ONLY an opinion): that you do the work on yourself to be capable of being a giving and loving partner who can be honest with themselves and their partner that they DON'T know them-self completely and that they have struggles and failures and problems, but that you and your partner encourage each other, are honest with each other and help each other be better people. and ENJOY each other.

i think you will find a partner when they will help you out the most in your life. they are your otherhalf so you can't be whole.. now that being said you can't just be a complete emotional wreak either and expect somone to piece you back together that's just wrong for your potential partner to have to deal with that so early on.

Firstly you CAN find a partner. Despite this, chances are this person will not be good for you or "make you whole" whatever that fantasy fairy tale means. If you're not happy with yourself, if you don't love yourself, then you won't find someone to be happy with nor will you find someone who will love you.