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Is it true that nice guys finish last?

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Regenerit (Age:18 to 24)     When: 6 months ago
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I hear a lot of talk of girls choosing mean guys and then getting dumped by them. Then they go to the nice guys that are their friends and talk to them about what happens. The nice guy helps out the girl (he has a crush on her) and is really nice and caring to her. She ends up dating another mean guy and the cycle starts all over again until the nice guy ends up mad at the world, etc, etc, etc. True or False? You tell me.

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MissMysterious
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MissMysterious (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Unfortunately, its true sometimes.
But. Not always.
I'd venture to say that most girls have a tendency to be attracted to "mean guys" because of their cool, cocky demeanor. However, most girls would prefer to be in a relationship with a "nice guy" who actually cares about them and is a gentleman.
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iridescent
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iridescent (Age:25 to 29)      When: 6 months ago
False. The nice guy your describing sounds like he isn't confident enough to express his feelings to the woman he loves. He finished last because he didn't act first. His bad. If he can't deal with potential rejection (because that is ultimately what he is afraid of)how the heck can he deal with a relationship. If your a guy afraid of women , you will definitely finish last.
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nusoulmusic I have to disagree with you to a point. Many times I have seen nice guys be as confident as can be, but the woman straight up chose the jerk that cheated and abused. - 6 months ago

ApoRiA
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ApoRiA (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
True, unless the nice guy is a childhood friend/family friend who she doesn't risk to lose friendship with. It's because girls like guys who are understanding - even though they might only be like this when he's trying to solve her problems.

I personally don't get the choosing mean guy then to be dumped thing. Haven't tried it out. But I personally wouldn't date guys on extreme ends (too bad/too nice). Girls like guys who "appear" bad but in mind really knows how to treat a woman right :)
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IndianRose
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IndianRose (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
I think it's true what you are saying. But those girls will change, most of them. They will go after the bad guys when they're young, because it's different, it's new and exciting and probably a lot of other girls will be jealous. But most likely, they'll end up marrying a nice guy.
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soxfan94
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soxfan94 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
There are two levels of "nice". There's a superficial level which consists of someone who is always saying the appropriate thing, never risking a rude remark, and always being 100% respectful of a girl's decision by never disagreeing with her. These "nice" guys finish last.
The deeper level of "nice" stems from implicit actions, when a guy offers a girl his coat or does something small to show a girl that he cares. These types of guys are able to spend 90% of their time keeping a girl on her toes by disagreeing with her, and not following her every whim. Then, when the time REALLY comes to be nice, they are there.
Women notice the deviation, is what it comes down to. Women, like everyone, don't want someone who is ALWAYS "there for them." They don't want you asking "are you ok? do you want to talk about it?" when they get a paper cut. They want someone confident and self assured who lets them live their own life. Then, when something serious occurs and they need support and reassurance, they notice and appreciate it much more if it comes from someone who hasn't been offering it all along. If you give me a pen every day, even when I don't want one, I'm not going to be very impressed if you happen to give me a pen on a day that I just so happened to need it. I'm going to be impressed much more by someone who doesn't usually offer, but knew to offer exactly when I needed it.
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tex151 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 5 months ago
You got it nice guys finish last , women always say they want a nice guy don't believe them they don't , if they did every nice guy would have a hot girlfriend. Nice guys are guys they aren't attracted to sexually because they don't turn up the heat with women, they usually say stuff like well I respect you and I really care about you, and well this makes women run for the door. They say oh that's sweet, and then guess what there with some dude who treats them like crap, why do they go for this type simple, cause that type of guy doesn't care, he won't say that he likes her, he waits for her to say it. Women want a man they can't push over and a bad guy they can't push over and they know it, but a nice guy come on man they could have one eating out of the palm of their hand in a second cause he will do anything for her.

The key is if your a jerk you get lots of girls but they never stay with them, and nice guys never get girls because they can walk all over them, so what you need to be is a good guy a guy who won't put up with their crap yet won't treat them like complete shit. Be their protector and show that you are family man. And most importantly be very confident and if you have to be assertive if she pulls some crap be like not not buying it and don't let her get away with it. Good guys turn up the heat they kiss women when they want to never asking, they just do it.
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Lil-Texazn
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Lil-Texazn (Age:Under 18)      When: 5 months ago
In this story, or any story really, I'm the nice guy. I'm glad to help my friends out, even when they turn their back on me. Remember, "What Would Jesus Do? " But after a while it does get a little exhausting and dangerous. I've wondered about my sexuality and sometimes feel sorry for myself. But thinking again about "WWJD? " It makes me stronger and keeps me confident that I'll get the girl of my dreams one day, the girl coming to me and going to the next jerk obviously thinks of me as her "safe guy" and I don't need, nor should I want a girl that stupid. Really, the jerk stays a jerk, the girl thinks she knows best, and the nice guy holds his head up. Nice guys don't finish last.
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drkind2000
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drkind2000 (Age:36 to 45)      When: 5 months ago
TRUE! I thank it's about the chase, Nice guys are not enough challenge, the real trick is to be ruff on the outside so she has a challenge and soft on the inside so she knows you care.
A young women love the chase and after she get a little older she will love a man that can meet her needs and she will not have to retrain a guy or care for her.
Don't give up on being a nice guy(that's you) just get a little rougher on the outside so they have a challenge just never change who you are on the inside
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WindChaser
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WindChaser (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
If you are asking this question to help you decide what type of man you want be in the future, please let me give some clarity.
The idea of women, nice guy, and jerks can be pretty confusing or counter intuitive for for some of us, especially the younger ones.
The confusion is when younger guys misunderstood what was meant when girls say, "I like nice guys. " When some guys think of the word "nice," they think of pacifism, non argumentative, catering, caring(overly caring). Well, to a girl, these qualities are on the same line as the qualities of a push over. I think the best description of a push over I can give is someone who have lost his individuality, his self confidence, his self validation. He is so afraid of being himself, of voicing his own opinion, and of standing up for himself that he has to cling and cater to a girl so she wouldn't leave him. It's pretty sad that the nature of our human interaction and attraction is this way, but to a girl. A man like this is not, well, a man.
As for the jerks, they are much less of a push over. They are more than eager to voice their opinion, challenge the girl, and so on. To girls, they think that these characteristics jerks possess are attractive. Because if they are standing up for themselves, then that must mean that they are important.
The sad thing is that nice guys lack this ability, the ability to show/prove self importance to girls. I think this ability is probably the most important thing a guy can have when it comes to attraction. Now just imagine how a girl will react if you combine the qualities of a nice guy and a jerk. She will see someone who is caring, sensitive, kind, yet assertive, firm, has a mind of his own, has a backbone. I don't think any girl will pass on that =)

The bottom line is nice guys DON'T have to finish last. Only guys who are nice in the WRONG way, that is lacking trust oneself, will they finish last. So it's a great thing to be a guy who is nice, kind, caring, loving, etc, yet still be assertive, firm, and strong.
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Bduffman1234
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Bduffman1234 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 6 months ago
Yeah, its called a masochist, you chix are psychos, "ONLY two or less bags or you have to Check them in" DIA terminal west
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Ken7710
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Ken7710 (Age:Under 18)      When: 6 months ago
Yup Its pretty true but once in a blue moon there is nice guy who gets the girl in the end. But most of the time what you said really does happen and it stinks.
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