Why do guys try to be hard when they are really hurting in inside?

It is a common perception that men are supposed to be always thought and be MEN and not MICE. They see emotions, crying and all that fluff as weakness, which is right for them, but not for women. Men are considered to follow more according to reason and mind while women according to emotions and heart, which is their strengths but also their weaknesses. (That is why men and women should come together and work together equally so that both may find best benefit from both sides). It is the perception of society: If a man starts crying and comes forth as emotional and feminine society rejects it or rather frowns upon it, the same when women become too rational, judgmental, cold and analytical or manly, hence homophobia, feminism etc. That is why men reject their "feminine" side to get accepted by society or rather they just are that way, the same with women rejecting "manly" manners or just being naturally women. But nowadays people are rejecting societies perceptions and try to be be the opposite to prove a point of non-conformity and non-rules, but to be free to be anything by choice and not be subjected to anything, even your own genetics. Guys keep their emotions inside for many reasons, but mostly for good intentions, out of fear: either to keep themselves from harm or to keep harm from others, or to "live and let live" and keep to the tasks at hand and not get carried away by irrationality.

When we're by ourselves, we don't try to act hard. We basically act how we feel and dwell upon the situation and ponder about what's happened. However in public, we get it together and act hard because we don't want to look weak, and we want things to appear as though we've got them together. Also, if your life is jacked up, why bring someone else into your problems. I think that people should be happy as often as they can be. And if I'm not happy at the moment, that doesn't mean that you can't be.

I don't like showing weakness.

I know I live my life like I'm the captain of the ship. I mean, everything in my life I have either created or have control over, so if it goes to shit I am the one in the mirror. I think it may be more of accepting that things are f*cked up and moving forward, as opposed to being a hard ass. (though that's how we come off) It's really nothing personal. It's like taking an ass whipping. Am I going to get emo about it, or pick up my teeth and move on. For any real man the answer is B. ( or not to take the ass whipping, but God I love the Jaeger Bombs)

When you open up to someone one, you make yourself look vulnerable, and a lot of people don't want to appear vulnerable when they're with their girlfriend, because, you know, they're guys, tough. They might think that you'll look at him as some sissy boy or something. I'm a girl so I don't know for sure but that's what I think.