This guy and I just confirmed our casual, yet exclusive relationship last week. We've been dating for about a month or so, and have known each other for about a good 7 months.
If you know what facebook is, I tried confirming our relationship on there, and he has not accepted it. If you also know there are "free virtual gifts" you can send, I had sent him one and he sent one back in return.
However, as of last night, I noticed the virtual kiss he gave me disappeared and the one I gave him went on private. So, I know this sounds really stupid and ridiculous but I'm a girl, and we question such silly things like this. What's up? Is he embarrassed or trying to show he's still single on there?
Well is facebook his life if that is so then no, but your going to have to look for more evidence before the judge will issue you the warrant, just check his cell phone his call logs and text msgs, but maybe your just need to give the guy time to change his facebook
Ill take its not. I mean, we're not like youngsters who made mysapce their life back in the day (2-3 years ago for me). Thaht's kind of gone, but I mean, it's not a big deal. I'm not like crying over it and being a total drama queen, it's just a little questionable, but I yea, I agree with you, give it time. - 7 months ago
Even though you guys are in relationship surely this doesn't allow to tread on each others private space.
Com'on facebook even though known is not THE community where he has to act all shadowy. He can still show he is single and not particularly flirt with anybody else...
The next time you meet him talk to him, he would surely have something to say...
Lol well casual and exclusive sound like disclaimers for a relationship. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but either you're a couple or you aren't. Sounds like what you want and think of the relationship isn't what he thinks. I think you need to take a step back and decide on what you want. And then don't settle for anything else. Because if you settle, he will take advantage of you. Do you think that he really thinks of you guys as a serious relationship?
I know it's not a SERIOUS relationship. But I don't see what's wrong with just confirming it. But I suppose it doesn't really matter? Should I question him? - 7 months ago
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Well the dilemma you run into, is that it's probably too late. If you ask now, he might think of you as smothering him. But if you don't ask, then chances are, it probably isn't, and he's gonna do stuff with other girls. I think your best bet is just to tell him that you just want to be friends and see what he says. If he says ok, then you know how he feels. If he asks why, then you can tell him that you don't just want a boyfriend to have a boyfriend but you want something serious. - 7 months ago
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I don't want to be JUST friends at this point. I guess it's a bit hard to understand where we come from. I'd like this to BE an actual relationship, but just know that there won't be like you, DEEP feelings involved, at least not for now. Neither of us are ready for anything serious. One, I'm transferring to the UC in the fall, and we know that to hold a relationship then would be rather hard. But I don't know, in public, we don't hold hands or do anything however. ONe on one, he'smorepassionat - 7 months ago
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I understand that you don't want to be JUST friends. But I'm saying, you want something different from him. You say you don't want anything serious. But obviously you are troubled by the fact that he's not taking it as serious. You need to decide on what you really want. You can't complain about him not being serious enough, but then saying you don't want to be serious. You have to decide on what you want, BEFORE you get into a relationship, or else you're going to get hurt! - 7 months ago
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I suppose so. Perhaps as time is passing, I'm possibly developing a little more for him. I wouldn't worry about getting hurt or anything, that's just me. I know that getting hurt is all a part of this kind of stuff. This is my first time being in anything casual. Naturally, I've been in actual serious relationships beforehand ever since you know, when you get your first boyfriend in high school or something. I just ended a serious relationship 2months ago, and am not ready for another. So. Iono - 7 months ago
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I understand. I just know that if you want one thing out of a relationship, and the other person wants something different, someone is going to get hurt. But if it's casual, try not to get too attached, and you should be ok :o) But don't be afraid to be honest with him. At least that way you both know what you want, and can go from there. - 7 months ago
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As of today, he just said he wants the relationship to maintain an exclusive value, but not completely serious. I think, I'm just going to enjoy myself and not worry bout this so much. Thank-you for your help. :) I appreciate it. There are not many out there that take the time to listen to such 'nonsense. - 7 months ago
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It's no problem. We all go through relationship issues. Just remember that a lot of problems in relationships come from miscommunication. Either there is something unsaid, or something we're not sure about, or whatever. Never be afraid to be honest with the other person so at least you both know how each other feel. - 7 months ago
Ugh, men! They don't want to appear "tied down" but they also want their girl by their side but they also want like a million girls! I totally understand your concern. I think you should figure out a way to ask him why he hasn't confirmed it.
It is disrespectful to you because it is a social community that all of your friends see; and he is sort of rejecting you in front of everyone in an internet kind of way (lol). It's not dumb at all because I believe that it is a reflection of his commitment towards you. If you "confirmed" it in "real life" then he should have no problem confirming it online (which is way easier because it's like 2 clicks of a mouse to do that! ). Be wary, girl! And definitely ask him in a subtle and non-confrontational way (remember, men are usually perplexed and bewildered by stuff like this! LOL! )
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