So... boyfriend of 2.5 months wants to go on a trip with me during the winter holiday. I want to go... however, since I started dating him 4 months ago I've been having bouts of hesitation about how he feels about me (and not without reason). Around a month ago he admitted to wondering whether we were right for each other or not -- I had asked him about how he'd been feeling. I approached him a couple of weeks ago and he said things have been "good" on his end.
Let me express that especially within the last month, I've begun to fall for him rather deeply...
Am I a bitch if I tell him I don't feel right investing in a trip with him when I'm still not sure where we stand, and before I introduce him to my parents? On one hand I feel like I should take this as an opportunity to get closer to him alone (BOTH of us still live with family)... but on the other hand, I don't want to go and have him continue to deny me while we're on our trip. Uhm... I should point out that we've only gotten to third base because he's been holding off on me... so... we're still not having sex.
I know this might sound selfish but the last thing I want is to go on a trip with him, be naked in a hotel room with him and not be able to jump him the way I want to. I want to tell him that but it's going to be really tough expressing that to him. :(
No, you are not a bitch for not wanting to go on this trip with him. You don't sound selfish. Your reasons for not wanting to go on the trip are entirely reasonable.
However, if you don't want to go on the trip, he might get upset, want to break up, etc ... if so, that's the consequence of your decision, and you've got no right to get angry with him about it.
Good luck!
P.S. If this guy hasn't pressured you for sex after 2.5 months, that's possibly a very good sign about him.
Yes... he's an amazing man. He's holding off on sex until he feels further attached to me. But I care about him already. So this makes it hard. I could assume that our trip is being planned to help us GET closer... but I've noticed, in the past, that my assumptions are often wrong. He takes a LONG time to grow close to someone... - 15 days ago
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