He tells people I'm just a friend but tells me he hopes I don't cheat on him.

he is using you for sex hun...thats what's going on...you don't see it cause your in love with him, but he does not love you...if he really cared for you: one he would be up front with everything in his life, two he would tell his friends you two are a couple and not just friends, and three he wouldn't be cheating on you with his baby's mama...if you want to stay with him that's your choice but I would sleep with a couple of his friends first before you decide to go back with him...i know it sounds f***ed up but he won't realize you are serious unless it smacks him in the face lol

He sounds really confused . He obviously likes you , but he has an attachment because of the kid . You should confront him face to face ( I know , scary stuff ) . Don't trust him straight-away , you won't find rest in your heart , until the issue is handled . Is there any physical proof that he is cheating , or is he just visiting his baby? Tell him , and be firm with your demands . Sounds strange , I don't know . Good luck .

he is not treating you right and does not deserve you. you were NOT put on this earth to be walked all over and as hard as it may be you need to confront him, and then you need to leave him.
two years is a long time for him to be calling you a friend, what is he, ashamed?
plus he's cheating. who the hell cares if it's the baby's mama or not. he should be there for the kid, but also choose one or the other woman.
he's a little bitch. leave him, leave him now.

i think he's playing you .. so sorry to tell you .. if ure "just a frend" still after 2 years he doesn't wanna settle down..or might have someone else that can't know about you .. sorry I was in the same mess. I left him though and realize now that he wasn't ready for a relationship..

It sounds like you have a real self esteem problem if you are willing to be with someone who is cheating on you and not even being honest to your face. I'm sure you love him, but you need to start learning how to love and respect yourself, something this person clearly isn't going to do for you. This is a journey you and you alone need to take. Of course he's coming right back to you - he gets to have it his way all the time. He obviously isn't caring about your feelings or he would make different choices. If his own family is even telling you about it, that should tell you something. Love is hard, and so are breakups. But you need to move on. If someone doesn't want the same things you do, then you have to. You have your own life to live and are worthy of a love that's yours and someone who can treat you with the love and monogamy you deserve. Also, a word of advice - the world will only walk all over you (and so will this guy) if you let it/him. You are in control of your own ship, and you need to start asserting yourself to the world and to this person. Let him know you know, and it's over. Someone who truly cared about you wouldn't do this.

I been going out with this guy for like 4 years same situation... Babymom stays at his house cause she couldn't find a place to stay & she was kicked out where she was staying so he took her in because of the kids... But I am suspicious. I tried not calling him & ignoring his calls then he just gets upset he even mentioned marriage as well. I don't know what to do, to move on. As dumb as I am I can't ignore him 100% & I end up in the same situation again. The best thing to do is probably to let go & find someone you can have a good and healthy relationship with. Personally I will never trust this man a 100% cause I know & I have seen things he didn't tell me about yet & I know a relationship or marriage won't work without trust.
I know its very hard cause you only want the best out of the situation... But the only thing is to be honest tell him how you feel hopefully he will listen & respect ur feelings.

Good luck... =]

damn...I think you should write him a letter saying what you think. Communication is key, and if you have trouble talking about it, then you should tell it to him on paper. It makes it easier to be strong too, and tell him off a bit, that is bogus don't let him get away with it!

well I think you shud just ignore him for good get him out of ur life, if he tells people your just his freind he's obviously not wanting people to know there fore there someone els he wants to be with, he is keeping you on the side wants you to himself leave him or you could actually tell him you know see what happens if he cares he will tell people that you are together but to me it seems he is hiding this from someone. if it was me id leave him but then agan its a lot easier for me to say because I'm not with him, do what you thinks best.