I got a girlfriend that I love now and found out that she does coke. And she promised she stopped after I found out, through time I always had a feeling she was still doing it and would accuse her of it but she would deny.
I even went as far piss testing her but she wouldn't let me go in there with her she went with a friend that doesn't do drugs and I came out clean. I thought it was funny because I know my girl smoked weed a week prior so I thought it was funny that weed didn't show up in the test which made me think it was her friends pee.
Then time went on then I fell in love with her. And she just got divorced too right, so when still talks to her x because of paper work. . But then I saw a text that he sent her when she wasn't looking that he has something she might like. . I confronted but no response.
Then I finally got her to break down to me and admit that she has been doing drugs behind my back and lying and the times I thought she was doing them she really was on them. And then she went to fly to see family and on my way to drop her off she wanted me to leave her there, I thought that was fishy because I thought she was gonna get drugs so I waited.
In the process of waiting I got her to break down and told me it was like a everyday thing and I was right she wanted to get drugs before she left. So I found out who the people were and deleted their numbers from her phone. She said at this point she wanted my help so I started. I watched her go through security and everything I waited by the exit till she said she was on the plain and it was time for departure.
She said she would call me when she gets there. So I looked at the time and she hasn't called so I text her. And she said she was eating dinner with family, I thought that was fishy because it was 10 min after her landing. So I tried to call her she wouldn't pick up, she promised that she would call me on her way home.
So I start accusing her of things she got mad. So I got her x number some how and called him and asked him I haven't herd from her do you know if she got on the plane ok, he said yeah he dropped her off( but I really did) he said she missed her flight and caught the next one. So I knew it my gut was right.
Then she says it was only to get money because she didn't have any but I had hella money in my pocket she could have asked for. So I accused her of getting drugs from him. Anyways she got back her pupils are dilated again and she seems funny.
We get home and I notice she has a hard time falling asleep, in the morning she comes out of the shower sniffing, I had not heard that the whole time she been back but now I did. She wanted to break up with me now for accusing her, when she claim now she finally stop.
I love her and want to help her. But she fights me every time I accuse her and tries to break up with me. What the hell do I do guys? Because I used to do them but all I do is drink now its been hella years so I kinda understand and feel sorry for her. What should I do?
I would have to advise that you tell her how much you care about her but in the same respect you can not be involved with someone who could set you up to get into a shit load of trouble if she gets busted with it say in your car then your just as f***ed as she is.so tell her that she has two choices.either A)She goes into rehab to kick the habit and make sure she knows if she does it she will have your support 110%.or B)You walk out the door.
Let her be the one to decide what is more important. but try really hard for the first option.
Interesting as I have a female friend going threw the exact same thing. Her boyfriend/ father of her 2 children is doing coke as well and even is going threw court for other charges. Anyway ...in order for her to stop she may need to hit bottom.
All you can really do is tell her how much you love her, and how much the drugs are hurting you and her. Explain to her that as much as you love her - you have to let her go until she gets help. Its a very hard thing to do but sometimes tough love is the best thing. Explain to her if and when she goes to get help you will be there to help her threw it. But until then you have to turn away.
Also get yourself some counseling as well to help you be strong on her behalf. Helping you understand how to help her as well as allowing your self to be able to turn away if needed. Sorry for all your stress. Drugs grab so many good people . Its a scary world.
Do whats best for her and tell someone like her parents she will hate you but wen she's better she will thank u if she doesn't change just move on though you don't want to be with someone who has problems like that and doesn't want to fix them
You could try staying together with her. Don't accuse her. Tell her that you completely trust her and then ask if she's still doing drugs. Tell her that you're only acting this way because you love her and want to see her have a better life. If she really won't tell you and keeps acting this way then all you can do is let her go. But try to stay her friend if you do. Because if she's ever serious about getting clean then she'll need you're help.
I know you love her.. but loving her may mean that you have to let her go. There are some people with the help of family and friends that want help , want to get clean, want a fresh start over... and then there are people like your girlfriend, who tell you what you want to hear so that she can in return do what she wants which in her case is coke. U stay , argue , pretty much put up with it.. and I say that not to be disrespectful but to be truthful. U said you use to do them so you know .. that its not over until she says its over and nothing you or anyone says can change that... she has to want better for herself. I hope she gets better before drugs completely consume her whole identity or her life . I commend you for giving drugs up.. you did a great deed for yourself
Yea my ex did extacy she doesn't do it often like 1 every other month but if ill be there with her or she will be with some1 I know and can trust but ur girl needs professional help
You need to get her help and tell her you are hear for her and if she says anything but yes say then I will leave you. She will probably need professional help and your support.
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