There's a girl that I hang out with and were really close friends. I love her but she said she can't be in a loving relationship. Anyway she shows me her drawings we talk a lot. Only thing is that she's been acting different lately. Every time I described it to people they say she's falling in love with me. Like now we went from cuddling, to she lets me kiss her. I kissed her neck once and she said my nick name. Which was very unlike her normally she's not so affectionate normally just cuddles. My question (if she is falling for me) is how can she fall for me now and not. 8 months ago when first started hanging out? And why does she seem to hide things like her drawings now? She use to draw me all the time and showed me, what's different now?
I think she is falling inlove with you. I guess it took her 8 months getting to know you to fall huh.
Some girls are afraid to reveal their feelings. It makes them feel, vulnerable. Some put their guard up even higher when they are inlove. Because now that they have these feelings, it is easier for the guy to hurt them.
There are days when she feels like putting her guard down, and letting you in. And there are days when she gets really scared, and pushes you away. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you, or it doesn't mean her feelings changed. She just got scared, again. You can't change her fear, but you can walk with her through it.
When you feel she is pushing you away, reassure her of how you feel about her. That you're not going anywhere. Tell her you can wait until she is ready to love. She is looking for some kind of security with you, and simple words like that will help her feel safe with you, emotionally.
She probably doesn't show you the drawings, because she doesn't want you to think that she thinks about you alot, or maybe she is afraid you might think she is so inlove with you.
It all comes down to her being afraid of getting hurt. Since she feels something deeper with you, she knows you can easily attack her feelings, and hurt her, so just show her what she really means to you, and show her its ok to fall inlove, and be happy, with you.
Her personality is let me in a little closer, then she gets weird about it. Then she pushes me away, which really scares me because I don't know if she's gonna take me back every time. I think she's doing that right now. Still if she likes me she'll talk about it with me right? - 4 months ago
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She should, unless she's too scared. I'd give her some space and hope things turn out the way you want them to. - 4 months ago
Oh she likes you a lottt! She is probably not showing you the drawings because she is now more shy (and insecure; which is what love tends to do to people) or maybe their racy! Lol! Just go with the flow; there is nothing left to do but be the man that she adores!
Its VERY possible that she likes you now. I seems likely. And yes it is possible, a guy asked me out then I got a crush on him 2 months later (this was a long time ago) but go for it talk to her
Is there something a person could do or say to make them seem more appealing or is it the fact that the amount of time makes the person more important. Also she still holds her opinion of not having any loving relationship. What I don't get is if she does like me, why be so resistant? - 4 months ago
It is possible, and more easily to fathom. It's easy for you to like someone, yet stay reserved because you don't want to get caught up in a relationship that might hurt you later. She may have just wanted to wait until those feelings might have faded away, or to know more about you. Now that she's known you for longer, she has the option to move closer to you. She feels like she knows you better.
She's becoming more trusting, and you've shown yourself to be consistent in all that she desires. . . She could JUST be starting to want that relationship with you. She'll let you know, as she starts to open up more.
That's where it gets tricky because she's like that for a while and then she freaks herself out. She's been in a bad relationship before. I think she realized she did something she should have thought about more. Now she's acting distant, I can tell when she does because it's really obvious because she talks to anyone instead of me and keeps conversations with me to as few words as possible. Or I could be reading to much into it and she might have just been tired because we hung out a lot that week. - 4 months ago
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That does get a bit tricky. At the least, it sounds like she likes you. That bad relationship before could wreck a couple of things for you. Because of that relationship, I think she's scared to go any further with you than what you are. She lets herself trust a little, sees what she's doing and gets scared.
All you can do is keep doing what you're doing. Give her no reason not to trust you. Encourage her and help her through what struggles she has now. - 4 months ago
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I know, I always wanna clear the air between us. It's just freaking scary because I don't know if she'll let me back in. She's pretty quick to push someone away. Or she's pretty quick to push me away. I don't know, but I'll keep trying to earn her trust. - 4 months ago
She likes/loves you now and may be a little shy. She's shy about revealing her feelings to you and that might be why she's not showing you her drawings. And yes, I think it's possible for girls to fall for guys months after they meet after they get to know you (and you've been acting the "right" way)
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