Would you want to know if your girl was raped?

Well, I think most guys would like to know if their girl had ever been raped, and if it was recent they would try to do something about it weather you wanted them to or not, they might at least suggest offer or try to do something, and to most guys that actually care I think it means you trust them enough to tell them, so depending on the circumstances and such its really up to the girl's decision of how they think they will react, do they trust them that much not just to tell them but also trust them enough not to flip out and do something too extreme, but to really answer your question, I do think if the guy is a decent caring guy then he will really want to know. On average.

Yes and No if it recently happened my girl better not tell me until he's locked up because I mite kill him and ill go to jail and Yes I would want her to tell me especially if she was acting weird and it would explain it

Unlike verboten memory, I think you should tell him no matter how he feels about virginity, etc. If he loves you, it won't matter to him that you're no longer a virgin, especially if it was against your will. Also, soxfan is right: being honest with him about something like this will not only be a major relief to you, it will also do wonders for your guys' relationship. The one thing I would caution against however, because I've seen this happen and it never ends well, is telling your boyfriend who did it. I've seen guys (and I'll admit, I myself would probably do the same) fly off the handle when they learn something like this, and go and try to hunt down the guy that did it. This doesn't do anyone any good except for the cop who arrests your boyfriend for assault.

That said, you should absolutely tell someone what happened, if not your boyfriend. If you don't report the guy that did it to you, there is nothing to stop him from doing it again to someone else. Don't worry about what your family, friends, or boyfriend will think; they will love you no matter what. The guy that did it deserves to be punished, and you deserve justice. Tell your parents or the authorities as soon as you're comfortable to do so.

I would definitely want to know. A rape is an incredibly life-altering experience, and can traumatize women for the rest of their lives. Being able to know that they are still beautiful and wonderful girls is a significant step. A lot of times, they fear that they will be seen as "used goods" or that guys will think less of them. Once they are able to tell their boyfriend about it and realize that he still loves them, it can be an incredibly cleansing experience.

I'm not sure if this is true in all cases, but I experienced this once and that was the outcome that happened in our relationship. It was not only helpful to her to admit it and finally move on with her life, but it was also incredibly strengthening in our relationship, since I realized that she trusted me completely (no one else knew. And they still don't) and she realized that I truly loved her.

If she feels comfortable telling me, then I would accept it whatever the case it maybe. It really shouldn't make a difference because girl obviously did not want that experience, and the result of an unfortunate set of circumstances on her part should not affect anything. But if your man is the type that cares a lot about virginity and stuff like that, then I would probably keep it to myself.

man, well my first like serious relationship, I told my boyfriend about it. I think because it was my first sexual experience, I was dealing with some of the issues. he wasnt receptive. I asked him if he was glad I had told him and he actually told me, that he didn't think I should tell a guy that unless I was gonna marry him. haha so yea, he was a douche. the second guy, I dated for a year. its not something I normally talk about. I only decided to tell him because one of his girl friends was crying rape, and having been molested and raped when younger I was pissed, he wasnt listening to my opinion on the matter, so I decided to tell him why I was upset. tho I did not go into much detail, other than something had happened. I think in the future, that is something that I am not going to talk to a guy about. I mean, if it comes up, it comes up, I won't lie, but really, they don't need to know the details, and you don't need to relive it. so, that's my opinion, if it comes up, and you have known them for awhile, you can talk about it, but I think less details are better.

I'd tell my guy because well, I adore my boyfriend and trust him with everything, if I didn't trust him, I wouldn't be with him. . If I hid something from him as huge as "I've been raped" it would cause problems in our relationship.

I think if a girl wants to share it then that is fine. I mean it happened to me and my boyfriend wanted to know. I mean it was really embarrassing in a way for me to tell him but he was understanding and afterward he said that it helped that he knew because it explained a lot of things to him as far as the way I behaved and acted about certain issues.

I personally would. Because rape could cause problems in the relationship because she might not be as trusting or willing to do sexual things because she will have to deal with the scares that her attacker left her with. Also while you two are having sex memories of the event could be brought up in her mind and that may make her "see" you as her attacker which could cause pain and/or trauma to her which could cause her to hate you or (in some cases) attack you, because she is thinking that she is attacking him.