Older men please- Does he really love me?

STOP enabling him. You allow him not to marry you and you allow him to cheat and you continue to do it. MOVE ON or you will be hurt again and you know it.

I think he's thinking with his little head instead of his big 1 but that's my op it's like a holes we all got 1.

You know exactly how committed he is. You know another let-down is coming (just a matter of time). May be he does love you, but his past actions have demonstrated that he's not committed to you.

Not following through on 3 proposals, cheating on you, breaking up to be with an ex. This is not commitment.

You're a comfortable relationship safety net for him. And he's probably one for you. Are you satisfied with this arrangement, because it isn't commitment.

You definitely have a lot of yrs. invested in this relationship & you both have children together so I am sure this man loves you & cares what happens to you but, he has a definite fear of commitment & loving someone does not guarantee commitment as you have seen by his actions thus far. It seems like a good thing to him at times to marry you & commit to you only because he knows deep down that is the way it is supposed to be thus, perposing to you so many times & then when it comes right down to it he calls it off. This has nothing to do with you- this is a character flaw within himself. Nothing you do will ever change that unless he wants to change. The grass will always seem greener to him elsewhere.

You need to decide if you are willing to accept this kind of behavior indefinitely or decide to move on & find someone who wants to be in a loving & committed relationship with you. You will always have a connection with him because of the children which will make it hard for you to move on but, you need to think about yourself & what you deserve to be happy. I know that you want to believe that because he tells you he loves you that this time things will be different but, you need to stop listening to the words & look at the actions because they speak volumes! You know that he will end up hurting you again. Take care!

I understand how you feel my guy have cheated on my twice in the past we are on a break now et we still hang out and still together yet he is also sleeping with someone else I know I should move on but can't. The bottom line is relationship are hard I don't doubt that my guy loves me. I think yours does too how old are you guys. Some guys just can't commit