My boyfriend dumped me after 3years with no real reason,he just said he needed time on his own.It sometimes goes like 3/4 days and we do not have contact.I had not seen him for 2 weeks and he came to see me yesterday and we went to the cinema,he kept looking at me and poking me and because it was too late for him to go home he stayed at my house.We was cuddling and I said to him is this final or is there a chance for us and he said I think it is final but he said he will always love me.The next thing he is poking me again,trying to pick me up, touching me EVERYWHERE and wanting me to touch him,only oral sex occurred and he said he would come to see me next week. Is he just playing with my mind or is he confused as to what he wants? I feel maybe he has had a one night stand with someone and cannot face telling me the truth and cannot be with me because of it, he said there is no one else and nothing happened he just needs time on his own. I think its a bit extreme though to decide that after 3years together. It was only in February he was talking about engagement and saying how he wanted my kids in the future!!
He has also just lost his nan all of a sudden and has asked me to go to the funeral in a couple of weeks.. but why would you want your ex to go?
Is he playing with my mind or does he feel that maybe he has made a mistake?
Update: He knew though how I was feeling before anything happened and he does not want me feeling like that. If it was a 'first date' I would take it as 'he likes me and wants to be with me' but I just do not know now as obviously we were together for 3years!
4 months ago
Well maybe. Well it seems that he has made up his mind that he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with you but he still loves you. That happen with me and my ex. My body and heart was saying yes but my mind was saying no. The engagement and all that stuff happen to me and my x too. We just talked about it because we loved each other but now we just friends. I mean she was holding me back and not letting be become who I wanted to be because of her ways and she wouldn't change we both wanted different things out of life. Well when you love someone its hard to let them go. Well he is playing with you only if you let him. You gotta open up the lines of communication and talk about it and figure what is really in his head that's the only way to know. Like I know we love each other but I feel like you are leading me on because we still connect but you don't want to be in a relationship, so how come you gotta be like this? What is it? Is there someone else or is it you can't see us being together for longer? And why? Good?
It's really hard to figure out what is going on in his mind seeing as he just up & dumped you like that. My ex-fiance left after 4 yrs. & basically said the same thing to me, also but, there was a lot of problems building up towards the end so when it happened I was devastated & I am still in a lot of pain over the breakup but, I knew why things happened the way they did. I'm sure that if you really look at your situation you will start to see things for what they really were.
My ex also, plays head games with me & constantly gives me that little bit of hope that we will work things out but, I don't see that happening. What I believe is going on with my ex & your guy is that they do love us in there own way & there are times when they need to be with us to feel safe so to speak but, they want there freedom to do what they want when they want without having to answer to us.
In other words they haven't grown up yet & they do not want to be committed. Not right now anyways. You need to decide for yourself what you intend on doing- wait around & put your life on hold hoping that he will come back or move on with your life. If I were you though, I would stop having any kind of sex with him- don't allow him to take advantage of the fact that you still love him so that he can feel guilt free when he uses you just for a booty call. You deserve better than that & you have the right to demand respect from him. He needs to see what he will be loosing if you are not in his life anymore but, if he is receiving the best of both worlds that will not happen. I'm not saying that you should cut off total contact such as going to the funeral, etc. but, I would not GIVE too much. Be strong & hopefully this will work out for you better than it has for me so far. Take care!
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
My first ideal date could simply be out to dinner and then a movie or it could just be going over his place and watching a movie or doing something. I don't really care what we do as long as we have fun. either way id wear something nice. probably a black mini skirt and a tight white tanktop with lace and with a shirt over it and definitely cute black shoes. and the date would end with a kiss.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
After the date he would know that I'm nice, fun to be around, sweet, funny, confident, and cute.
And the picture I know I was at work, waitressing.
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