If a man offered to take care of you forever, would you want him to?

(Though you asked explicitly for ladies' opinions; I wanted to throw my. 02 in. )

This question is really two in one: "Would you quit, and never work again, if you could? " and "Would you become dependent on someone else? "

I would want any woman I dated to answer no to both of these questions. I want a self-reliant girl who can (and does) take care of herself, and is independent enough to enjoy living on her own. I would view the sort of permanent reliance on others the question implies on-par with moving back in with the parents.

For that matter, even if I had an infinite sum of money, I'd probably still go in to work (I like what I do) on a fairly regular basis, and would hope that she had managed to find a field she felt the same about. (Even if the possibilities of market collapse, job loss, and theft are removed. )

Of course, I would enjoy us being well-off enough to spend as much time as we pleased larking about other countries and generally painting the town red, with work a "because I want to" sort of thing. (If I had infinite wealth, I'd also hope that she'd have no problem with expensive gifts. :) )

If she was asking me to support both of us while she pursued her dream job doing something like writing, or painting, or to help her start a business (and buy the take-out until they showed a profit), I'd have no problem with that. There's a big difference between needing short-term help and asking for a permanent crutch.

If a guy had the money to take care of me and lavish me with gifts than NO I wouldn't let him. Life isn't just about money and being taken care of. It would be a different story if you were in love with the person. If some random guy wanted to take care of me than no. I probably wouldn't even quit my job because of boredom and I like to be pretty independent. Sure, its probably nice to be taken care of and be lavished with gifts but don't you want to work for yourself and be proud of what you have done for YOU.?

Well I would have to say no.
I'm a pretty independent person and I think at times it is nice for someone to want to give you everything and more, I wouldn't drop everything for it. Some girls would say they would but I couldn't imagine not having a career and a life outside of my home life.

No because that would just give him the control over me. Giving him excuses to dominate and monitor every move I make. "I gave you everything, this is the respect you could give me?" I know this because I am seeing this in process with a friend whom I am trying to help get out of the relationship

No, I wouldn't. I would kinda like it, but I would still feel the need to go out and work and do things with my talents and get ahead in the business world. And bringing my own money in would be even better. Besides, I'd feel bad if he kept giving me stuff. I think I'd rather spend time with him.

Um. No thanks I would rather like to do things for myself! Simple as that!

Absolutely not ... If he's spoiling me, I want to spoil him back.

Plus you know, with a situation like him taking care of me, it would just make me feel like I was unable to do so myself, or like he thought he was a sugar daddy or something.. I want a lover and friend out of my boyfriend, not a sugar daddy.

I'd certainly appreciate the offer, but I'd have to decline. I mean, I wouldn't refuse to marry a guy because he was rich, that would be silly. But I wouldn't quit my job for a guy. Especially after all the education I'm going to have to go through to get my dream job, I wouldn't give that up. I'd continue to work, because I feel like if I didn't have my own life and pursuits outside of the house, I'd go mad. And there's something satisfying about being self-sufficient, even if you don't have to be. If I relied completely on someone else, that would give them a hold on me that I don't want. It's why I hate borrowing money, and try to avoid it as much as possible.

Besides, if something ever happened, if we broke up or if his money dried up, if the stock market crashed and we lost everything, I wouldn't want to have to reenter the workforce after years out of it. You have to keep up with the new technologies and developments in whatever field you're employed in. My mom was an industrial engineer, but she quit right before I was born and didn't work for 19 years. When the firm that employed my dad went under, she couldn't go back to engineering, because too much had changed. She's working now at a shop run by a family friend. It's not a bad job, but I don't want that to be me, you know?

Well, if there was a guy to offer me such um help I would be flattered and I would love him and I'd thank him BUT I wouldn't live off of him meaning I wouldn't accept it. I could never imagine to be bounded by someone else's favours. You know? I'd still want to go ahead and work for myself live off of my own money and feel independent. The idea of someone takin' care of you forever is nice. I mean who wouldn't want that? But then some people like myself have something called a conscious or the guilt land and I couldn't sleep knowing I'm a burden even if HE was the one offering me such idea in the first place.

And as long as he loves me for who I am. "the love" shouldn't be based on "extended gifts sprees" anyhow! Lol