I am just wondering if you think its really important to live with your girlfriend or boyfriend before even thinking about married. Do you think it better to not and wait till you are married to live together?
I know someone people are really religious so they can't what does everything else think. I been seeing this guy for 5 years we don't live with each other we love each other we don't live with each other.
I'm all for cohabitation before marriage. All people have their little living habits that can only come to light when you live together. Some habits will be ok and others may drive you nuts. It helps you to decide if you can live with them or not. By living together, you have to deal with all of those mundane day to day things (cleaning, cooking, paying bills, finances, house maintenance, and the list goes on). These are the things that many couples do not talk about before marriage, and can get a marriage in trouble.
I do not agree with Cizcoby's assessment that living together married is totally different from living together unmarried. As a person who lived with my wife before marriage for 3 years, we both found that there was no difference. We were living together while we planned the wedding, then we had the wedding, then we went back to our home. Nothing changed!
The greatest change you will find is when kids come along. Now that was a night to day change. One day you're carefree and doing whatever you want whenever you want. The next you have responsibility up the wazoo.
Living together married or live together not married. There is no comparison. It's not even a religious thing.
This is apples and oranges. There is a misconception that living together before marriage will help understand a person's true living habits. This is false. Why? The basis for your relationship is not the same.
Living together unmarried is not the same as living together married. Unmarried is simply living together. At any time, you can pull the eject lever and poof, you're out of there.
Marriage is a bit different. Somewhere in the vows you recite, "'till death do us part. " Simply you are going to stick through it, even when the going gets tough. Sure, nowadays, there is an eject lever, the question is do you place it within your reach. For some, marriage is a deeper form of a relationship.
Ask people if they loved each other when they were engaged. Then ask if they loved each other more when they got married. The answer is probably yes (yes you can love each other more than you previously thought. ) Then ask them, when you had kids, did you love each other. Best bet is that they loved the kids a lot, and hated each other. Hahahaha. Ok, kidding aside.
Living with each other while married has a different set of rules. The eject lever is not easy to reach, and for some, there is no eject lever.
Living while unmarried, you can pull the chord at anytime. Just make sure you have a good parachute. Just in case someone else is waiting for you to land next to him. Good Luck.
The quandary over the decision to live together is religious. I would be interested in hearing why you say it isn't.
As well, pulling the cord can be achieved in either a married or unmarried arrangement and create similar difficulties in actually leaving. Cohabitation under common-law can just as difficult to eject from as a marriage. Both are recognized in the legal system. - 7 months ago
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