How do you heal from losing the first Guy you ever loved?

Take your time think why did we broke up why I'm still in love if you answer those you will be able to get over it trust me

Well I would seek your first love and give it a try other wise you will live out your life thinking. Hmm what if. See the thing is that we don't regret the things we do as much as the things we don't do. Live life and seek it go for it and have fun. And if he married now then you know it wasn't meant to be, but at least you tried ya know. Then move on. If you find him with someone else that will make it easier for you to move on too because it takes out possibilities in you head like what if. Ya know. Good?

Be careful about this one. You may be in love with a dream and some idea of a beautiful relationship with this guy.

A friend of mine got divorced a number of years ago because of his infidelity with a much younger girl. Because the girl was so young, their little relationship didn't last long. He spent the next 10 years lamenting the loss of his marriage to his wife. I often heard the stories of how great she was and how well their relationship was. He raised her to goddess status. Whenever we would drink together, the night would always end with him lamenting his lost love.

Well, through life circumstance, he got back together with her 3 years ago and it lasted 6 months. He had raised her so high on a pedestal that she wasn't the person he lamented losing.

I think you may be doing the same thing with this guy. I think the dream of being with him, based upon that hook-up so many years ago, has become greater than reality. I think you may be passing up some nice guys for a dream.

I was thinking of tracking down my girlfriend from high school, and seeing how she has fared in life. Not sure if I still have feelings for her, or if I just have fond memories. I think I might be using her as an excuse to not get into any new relationships. I broke up with her errantly, and it's probably the regret I am dealing with.

You could use a detective agency, and see how he is doing. I was thinking of contacting a company, because I am unable to find her on any of the popular "keeping in touch" websites. I need some kind of closure, and it sounds as if you could use some too.

Honestly, if you have thought about this guy for this long then odds are you won't ever forget him. And every man that you meet you will always be comparing them to your first love. I don't how long it has been since you got a divorce but you definitely need some alone time away from men. I suggest you take at least a year before deciding what you want to do next. It won't be easy but you need time to heal. After a year has passed then go back out into the world and date as many men as you can without every thinking if they are the right one for you. Eventually, after a few fun dates you will realize that it's been a very long time since you thought about the past men in your life. But first and foremost you need time away from men so that the healing process can start.

I'm sorry to say the only way to heal is with plenty of time. I remember the first guy I loved, or thought I loved, when I was a freshman in high school. He broke up with me because I wouldn't have sex with him and I was devastated. I cried and cried and I never thought the pain would go away.

So how did I get over it? I spent a lot of time with friends and family and I also wrote a lot. For me, at the time, I used to write poetry as a way to express how I was feeling. It always gave me a way to let it all out and many times I would cry while writing it, but over time it helped. ]

I know it's hard and I am not saying it will be easy for a long time. But eventually I got over it and moved on. That first broken heart is rough, but hey I have some interesting poetry to look back and read. It's kind of funny now.