I've been seeing this girl for just shy of three months, and things have been progressing very naturally. We both live very full lives, spend a few days/evenings together a week, and everything seems to mutually fit. No fights, no drama, we're extremely attracted to each other, thrive on each other's creativity and ambition and everything seems very genuine.
About a month into dating, she told me she wasn't interested in anyone else and only wanted to be with me, but I was apprehensive because I had recently broke out of a loving relationship (I told her this). She wrote me a heartfelt letter while I was out of town stating how excited she was for our story to pan out, and commented on a future together. Within the next month I slowly committed and told her I had feelings for her. She replied that she was falling in love with me. I trusted her feelings and began to let myself fall harder for her.
Two weeks ago things took a turn as she gave me signs that she just wasn't as interested anymore, she stopped calling as much, and even though we were still hanging out and having awesome dates, I could feel distance between us. She had just quit her job, so I assumed she was just stressed about $ and life. I gave it a few days, but brought up the issue and she replied that she felt things were moving too fast, that she had only been in one serious realationship that ended a year ago and she wasn't sure what she wanted right now and was in different place in life than I. I assured her that I too was now falling in love, and told her that I believed her feelings for me were true.
A week later, after fewer calls and less interest she sent me an email stating that she needed a 2/3 week break to figure things out. She said that she's gotten scared with every guy she's dated since he last real BF and would typically just split without explaination, but she didn't want to make any rash decisions with me and needed time to clear her head. She said that although she was falling in love with me, she put the breaks on hard when she saw I had feelings in return.
So here's the question: Is she really just scared of being in a committed relationship, afraid from her last hard break-up? Or, has she just lost interest in me for whatever reason, and is just being nice because she still cares?
It sounds like she is still interested, but isn't looking for a relationship currently. The only problem with what she is saying is that no matter how scared you are of commitment, if you really fall for someone it seems like you'd be willing to give it a shot. Let her have her 2-3 week break- because if she still has such strong feelings for you, there's no way she will let things end completely.
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