I have been seeing and hanging out with this guy since September of 2007. The first time when met, we made out and I got his phone call couple days after, but I didn't answer. Then I again I didn't answer his calls and didn't call him back till 2 weeks after that we met with our friends in his house again. After that we decided to hang out alone and suddenly we stopped, he didn't call me much, because of his traveling around the states and being busy. (I Never called him myself though) so on Christmas eve he called me and I missed it, I called him back couple days after. Then month after we started to hang out again, he complimented me how cute and pretty I am and he told me that he likes me and he said he knows that I like him too. After couple weeks - valentines day, he called me, I missed it again, and called him back another day (i know its not right what I've done) and he told me he was really sick and can't hang out, then we didn't see each other for one month and again we started to hang out, but he was acting cold and wasn't open, he asked me those suspicious questions ''how is your boyfriend? '' like isn't it enough to assume I don't have one since we meet and make out. Then I lost my virginity to him and after sex he said to me that I'm going to do it with different colors and sizes(it really broke me inside, since I feel I'm in emotional stage with him, but I don't open it up, just act cool with him). In the beginning he wanted to ask me out ,but I guess he had trust issues, because I didn't talk much of myself. Anyways sometimes he would text me when I 'd be in school with 'good morning' and did you study for your exam? '' like it would seem he cares, he'd put his favorite romantic songs when we would be together and we'd both learn how to play guitar or drums in his house, he'd seem to do much to make me laugh. Couple days ago I called him (which was like 3rd of 4th time I ever did so! He usually makes the move, but he says to me often that I should call him, which I just never do) so he told me that he's sick, he has been working a lot and has been in the hospital and he sounded sad, then I told him that I hope he'll get better, after we finished talking, he said "thank you a lot for calling me'' and repeated it couple times so clearly. I don't know sometimes it seems he has feelings for me and sometimes no. But we're not going out! Is it possible he'll ask me out ever and why hasn't he done so? I feel I have started falling for him and I'm afraid of it to happen. How should I now start to open myself to him so not to scare him away with my emotions?
Update: Please people help to deal with this!
7 months ago
Jesus. You hung out with this guy since 09/07 and you have only called him 3 or 4 times? You lost your virginity to this guy and you still think he should "make the first move"? You know, a relationship is exactly that. A RELATION between one thing/person and another. There has to be a a corRELATION between two things to become RELATIONAL.
OK, I will spell it out_____Call him. Quit playing the phone game - it is VERY juvenile. Your reaction (actually the LACK of a reaction) to his statement regarding all colors and sizes was probably taken as indifference on your part. I am surprised he continued to call/contact you at all. I know this is an old post, but I just read the last couple of pages of the unanswered category and could not resist giving you a dressing down for your relationship incompetence. Again, call him (frequently). Good luck.
And ah I'm kind of shy, don't really know what to talk about on the phone, so I don't wanna just call, talk for 2 minutes of casual things and then say bye... - 5 months ago
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Then the next question is: "Are you shy with your girlfriends too?" If yes, then there isn't much hope unless he is a big talker who can fill in your gaps (no pun intended - LOL). If you are not shy around your friends, then you need to think about considering him "just a friend" when you are talking with him and his girlfriend when you are being intimate and let your body do the talking for you. If anything, you can talk dirty to him, just say something! He likes you, you like him. Get some! - 5 months ago
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Haha thanks for that dirty advice! lol I'm not shy around my friends, it's just the feeling inside me of the butterflies in my stomach that make me nervous a bit and I have noticed his voice being bit shaky sometimes when we're on the phone. Do you think it would be a good idea if I just tell him, "u should ask me out'? - 5 months ago
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Yes. If it takes a formal invitation nowadays. I figured since you had lost your virginity to this guy, you would have already been "asked" out. We called it "Going Together" when I was young. My wife's generation called it "Going Around". My Mom's generation called it "Going Steady". Her Mom's generation called it "Courting". All means the same I guess. Good luck. - 5 months ago
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Lol I called him today and he said he'll be going to the park and then he said do you wanna go out to the park tomorrow? did he mean do I wanna be his girlfriend? - 5 months ago
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