I recently started hanging out with this kid, I'm 19 and he's 25. We hooked up and for the past couple weeks have been hanging out, and while we've been hanging out we'll do things like cuddle or watch a movie. He always opens the car door for me and buys dinner, and he will always tell me how beautiful I am. The thing is, it seems as if it may never go beyond friends, because he commented on how since I'm in college, I wouldn't want a serious relationship, and I froze up and agreed. A few days later, we were lying down and cuddling and we were just talking and he was like while you're in college your gonna get drunk and accidentally sleep with a guy..etc...basically inferring that I'm gonna hook up with other guys in the future and kinda making me think he doesn't see things with us going anywhere. We've been hanging out for only a few weeks, but having hooked up there's obviously emotions that have come into play. Does anyone have any advice on what I should say/do/think???
Just tell him how you feel and if you want to be with him then tell him that. He is saying those things to justify why you have not made a move in the direction of a relationship.
He is saying all those things to figure out what you are like and to figure out if he should make a move. He says things like that to see whether you would be ready for a mature relationship or whether you just wanna have fun and full around. Don't freeze. Tell him how you feel, the next time he says you'll get drunk and sleep with some guy accidently just say, "Nah I'm not really into the whole party and drinking scene, I'd much rather watch a movie or go out to dinner with friends". By saying this he'll start to take you more serioulsy.
Say what's in your heart. You are in college so there will be many other guys if he's not the right one. Sounds to me like he does like you and he's sorta testing to see how you feel about him.
Schwildcat
(Age:30 to 35)
When: More than a year ago
In kind of agree with courtney - but I would not go so far as to dump him.
Try to make him understand that you don't want anyone else and see how he reacts. If he does not see it going any further - there is nothing wrong with having fun for now.
courtney
(Age:Under 18)
When: More than a year ago
Here's what you can do. You can tell him that he's the only one you've ever cared for this pationately. Say that Justin Timberlake could ask you out and you still wouldn't hook up with him. If he says that you're wrong,then the bestt hing to do is dump the guy.
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