I've been talking to this guy a little bit over a week. We mutually like each other. He's two years older than me, and I guess is more mature in a lot of emotional ways especially sexually. I'm a virgin, and he knows that. He's not one. But last night he told me that he loves me, and how happy he is that I'm with him, we're not dating btw. I really like him and he's a perfect guy for me so I don't want to break it off. But I'm not sure what the best way to approach his 'I love you' conversations since I don't love him back yet.
And also he's really sweet. Too good to be true. He's a good looking guy, so I don't know what he'd want with a two years younger virgin. So I'm wondering what some signs are to show that he's just saying things to get with me because I am a virgin, and I know the reputation that some guys like to get from being a girl's first.
I think you're a very perceptive person and already have a red flag being raised if you're asking this question. Hearing "I love you" after a week is a ploy to get in your pants and he's waiting to hear it back from you. Once he gets it, then you will hear something like "you would do it if you love me". I've told my daughter that if a guy ever says that to you then kick him to the curb.
You're in the drivers seat. Don't do anything you don't want to do. Another thing to watch for is him trying to move your relationship along sexually in a short time frame. Also, be careful of him telling you things that he thinks you want to hear. He may want to create the idea of him being perfect for you to lower your defenses; again in a short period of time.
You are under no obligation to say I love you in return. Your response could be "I like you". If he is offended by that, then it's another indication that his plan is being foiled and you're not falling for it and he will dump you.
Oh yeah. Way too soon. I'm not sure how far "under 18" you actually are, but in my mind given your age range there are two possibilities.
1) He's a player. If you like him, then sure, hang around for as long as you feel like it, and soak in the love - you're a teenager after all. The point is to have some fun. But do NOT give anything up that you're not completely ready and willing/wanting to. The second he starts to disrespect you, high tail it out of there. Don't even try to change a user.
2) He's genuinely infatuated with you. How sweet. Again if you like him back, stick around. You've got nothing to lose as long as you're both enjoying yourselves. Besides, some people are just more liberal with the "L" word than others. The same way we might say we love ice cream. Yeah we do, we're not lying, but we love lots of other things too. Keep it all in perspective.
In either case, if you don't love him back yet, the best response to his saying those three words might just to be laughing shyly and telling him he's sweet. So you let him know that you genuinely appreciate the affection, but aren't quite ready to go there yourself yet. If he's any good he'll get that, but somewhere along the line you'll have to recognize where the "leading him on" line starts to come into play.
It's been one week, you're not even dating and he's saying I love you? Yeah, sweetie, he just wants to get in your pants and take your virginity. Be careful and don't just give it up because he's feeding you the I love you line.
You don't have to stop seeing him, just take it slow and don't fall for sweet talk. Guys are experts at the game.
I believe I love you should only be said if you truly mean it and feel it. I love my boyfriend, but there are times, he would say, "i love you", but...
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
I usually start off with a joke. I use comedy as an ice breaker. If I'm nervous that's all I'll do. If not I just strike up a conversation. I'm good at both.
How do they typically respond?
They talk back. Half the time I get to take them on a date.
(Age:Under 18)
When: 3 months ago
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