I met a great guy online about 6 months ago. We corresponded everyday and eventually began speaking on the phone about 3 months ago. We hit it off perfectly. We then met up and spent some time together. Again, everything was perfect. Since then, which was about a month ago, since we've last seen each other, we've talked on the phone daily. Again, a great connection. Then last weekend (not this past weekend, but the weekend before), he went out of town to a wedding, while I too, went out of town with some girlfriends. He told me to call him, which I did. He even called me the next night. The conversation was great, and he was very eager to talk to me. Then I get home Sunday, of course anxious to talk to him about his weekend, but no answer (voice mail picks up first ring). I tried calling Monday, again no answer. Then he emails me Monday night, and says he left his phone (in another state while at the wedding), and that he will call me by the end of the week hopefully when his phone comes in the mail.
He states in the email that his weekend was good and hopes mine was as well. That Sunday, he also had his best friend move in from out of town whom he hasn't seen in awhile. So I assume he is busy and hasn't gotten around to emailing me. He also has school classes throughout the week. Even so, why hasn't he attempted to call me using his friend's phone or email me when he knows I'd be waiting to hear from him. The last I heard from him was that weekend, and everything was great. I held back from calling all week, waiting to hear from him. Nothing.
I then sent him a simple email saying I miss you on Friday(end of the week, thinking his phone should be there by now). Still haven't heard from him. I called Sunday (this past Sunday), and his voice mail picked up on the first ring again (again, assuming he hasn't gotten his phone back yet because it is turned off since the last time I tried calling that Sunday before), and I left a short message saying I was wondering if he got his phone back yet and hope to hear from him soon. This isn't like him to not call. Do I assume he is busy with his friend and really hasn't gotten his phone back yet, or is he trying to tell me something? He has always said that honesty and communication are very important to him, and if it wasn't working out (which I don't know what would've happened since the last time I talked to him that weekend), I believe he would be honest and tell me. But I'm really confused. Why would he invest so much, but then not make an effort to get in touch with me, even by email. I really do believe he left his phone and that he's probably still waiting for it (?), but what the heck is going on here?
Did you get too pushy or clingy? Girls are usually way more eager and excited to find the perfect mate than guys are. Sometimes we get spooked if it's too good because we start seeing a future we aren't sure we're ready for.
I was in a similar instance with a man I met online-same circumstance you are in- I believe he is scared about how good you two hit it off and it has surprised him- you took him off guard. Many people aren't expecting when they meet someone to be such a perfect match- but when they see that it is- they really don't know what to do about it. Give him some space and time so he can think about things.
That is confusing. He's either met someone else but doesn't have the heart to tell you (why do guys think ignoring us is easier than just telling the truth?!) or he's just busy and doesn't have his phone. If I were you, I'd flat out ask him. Once he's cornered, he'll be truthful, I bet.
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