I'm in the "talking" stage with my best friend, we're working on pursuing a relationship, he lives in another state which sucks. We talk and text every day. We get along pretty well and the limited time that we do get to spend with one another has been amazing. I do like him but I have noticed that I would always have to come up with an answer whenever he asks why we aren't together in a relationship because it already seems like we're already in one just not officially. The answer that I would tell him is that I don't want to be in a long distance relationship, it's not my thing, or that I want to take it slow. But truthfully it's something else, it's his past that is holding me back in pursuing a relationship with him. We've been friends for almost 7 years and we talk about everything, before we crossed the friendship to relationship line he would tell me about his current girlfriends and all of the things that he did with each and everyone of them. I knew that every girlfriend that he had, he had sex with everyone of them. It's just the fact that I know about his sexual relationship, it makes it harder for me to get into a relationship with him bc there are times that I am thinking is he using the same tactics with me as he did with all of his ex girlfriends and all he wants is just to get into my pants like all of the others? But also at the same time I know all of his ex girlfriend and once in a while I party or talk to them and in the back of my mind I'm thinking about the two of them and it makes me even more not wanting to be in a relationship with him. I know that not every guy that I'm going to come across is going to be a virgin or that they never had a girlfriend as I get older, but should I let the guy's past relationship affect the possible of having a future with them?
As marisa says, it's a very tough call. See if you can find out and analyze why his previous relationships came to an end and try to figure out if that is likely to happen to you.
Yes, I think so. Learn from others mistakes. Don't get with him. Long distance relationships usually have a lot of cheating in them. He probably IS using the same tactics. By the way every guy tries something again if it works the first time. Every long distance relationship I've had they always cheated on me or me them because of the distance. Only if you think you have enough trust.
That's a very tough question. It depends whether or not you can figure out how to get past his past, as you know. I highly doubt that he is using you or thinking of you the same way he has with his other girlfriends. There is no way that he'd be friends with you for 7 years, trust you with all his secrets and be able to look at you like any other girl. If I were you, I'd probably share your feelings with him next time you see him.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
Hmm first date would probably be dinner it's a way I get to know a lot about someone! Instead of your attention towards something else.. I wear something cute but not too revealing. And if I'm interested you'll know !
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
Everything that I'm comfortable saying you ask I'll answer as long as I feel that you have the right to know !
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