Is it ok to be friends with someone you dated?

Of course it is.I have many friends in many places, both male and female (I'm female by the way). Anyone who thinks differently is either self-absorbed or jealous or insecure in their current relationship. Got one for you.my boyfriend has been getting sleazy pics on his phone of a girl he says is only and will only ever be a friend.I've seen a few comments too. I don't snoop, just happened upon them when I was going to take a surprise pic of myself on his phone and save it. This girl actually talks nice to me and actually claims to be my friend. I've been irate ever since and am having a hard time getting over it or bringing it up. I personally don't think it's right at all or is it just a simple guy thing and doesn't mean anything? Please help.

I think it's important to have a period right after you break up where you distance yourself from them for about a month. However I think it's healthy to stay friends or at least acquaintances with the person. It has always worked in my favor.

This is a tricky one. I am currently dating a guy who seems the need to remain friends with everyone he's ever dated. I struggle with it because I was married for 13 years. And I don't really have anyone to remain friends with. I guess, though, if the tables were turned and I was able to remain friends with someone that I dated I would think that it was ok. As long as there aren't any chances that you might rekindle an old romance. If you're remaining friends because you truly want to be friends and nothing else then yes. But if either person has an interest in getting back together or if there are left over feelings I would have to say that it wouldn't be healthy for the new relationship for you to remain friends.

I guess it ok do you guys think it harder to be friends if you dated for a short term or a long time like say 3 or 4 years.

I think it's ok. As long as there are no feelings there. I'm friends with an ex and when he was with his last girlfriend we just talked as friends. Why miss out on knowing a good person if you don't have to? :-)

I think its ok. I'm friends wit almost every guy I've dated. I don't think its a problem

Yeah it is defiantly ok I'm great friends with one of my exs like its scary how good we get on ever since we ended we stayed great friends and he has a new girlfriend and he tells me about there problems and I listen and it never gets weird but I'm just the kind of person who can stay friends so it does depend on the people but yeah its defiantly ok and great if it works

it is ok, but I think it never really turns out that way. so I voted it isn't ok

I think it depends on how good of friends you are with your ex-partners! Like, if you are currently dating someone, I don't think it's cool to flaunt your ex-girlfriends/boyfriends in your current partner's face. I think it can be a touchy situation - especially if you have to choose between your current partner and one of your ex's. The person you are with at the time should not feel like he/she has to compete with someone from your past, so I think that it's our job to make our current partners feel secure in their relationship with us by not doing anything that would jeopardize the relationship we are in. If it does, maybe we need to take a look at what we're doing that makes them feel insecure if we truly value the relationship.Make sense?

It should be OK provided that both people are subject to the same rules. If there is a double standard involved, then it can become a major issue. That seems most likely to occur when one party is jealous or controlling. That person may have a history of dealing with a partner who couldn't be trusted. It could be just a temporary misunderstanding and reason will eventually prevail - or you may be faced with a choice between maintaining old ties and the new relationship. If you try unsuccessfully to point out a double standard, it can become a case of jealousy breeding jealousy. Best to get everything out on the table, because people can be good at filling in what it is that the other is not saying. I agree it is tricky.