My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months. There is a small problem , since I have known him he has been staying the night @ his daughters house she's 17 problem I have is that his ex lives there and he still hangs out with her. Another problem I have is he gives his ex money on a regular basis and its not child support. He does it because he says he don't want 2 c her struggle. I'm not sure what that means. He says he loves me and we have a great time 2gether, but I'm not comfortable with him staying there. I'm ok with him visiting. I don't know what 2 do or say. He says that nothing is going on between them but I don't believe him. And his ex or his daughter don't know about me.
Well I'll say this. As a guy that has balanced more than one girl at a time (though never in a relationship. I do have limits) I can tell you that rule number one is they can never meet. Throughout your question I kept saying to myself what's the big deal but when I got to the last sentence bells went off. I can't tell you he's cheating for sure. I can tell you that you need to stop letting him sleep there. The daughter should have met you by now too. After 9 months your either an important part of his life or you aren't but not having met his daughter by now is unacceptable.
Red flag babe. Right when you said that his ex and his daughter don't know about you I hit myself in the head. I don't understand why if you two are in a relationship why he wouldn't tell his daughter about you and have you two meet. It has almost been a year for God sake. And he's staying the night there? Sounds shady on all angles. Trust your gut woman. This is not good. At all.
Okay I can see your point about not wanting him to stay there, but if you trust him then you should know that he is only doing this to spend time with his daughter.
As for the money part, I wouldn't let that bother you. I think its admirable that he wouldn't want the mother of his child or his child to struggle financially.
I do find it odd that they don't know about you. How do you know this? Just from him telling you?
Overall, I suggest you give him the benefit of the doubt. If you care about him, tell him that it makes you uncomfortable that he is always over there. Why not suggest having his daughter come over to where you live and spend sometime. Then he would have time with her and she could get to know you.
Ok, you are not his girlfriend, you are his jump off. I would say that he has been running major game on you and unless you want to continue to be his jump off, leave him, his child and his baby momma to their own little party minus YOU.
He is still sleeping with his child's mother, he is supporting his child's mother and he is NOT claiming you as his girlfriend. I don't know any 17 year old girls who have sleep overs with their dad! Most 17 year old girls I know can't stand their dad! Move on. Good luck!
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