How doI get over the past?

While I applaud DeltaBoy and Suave[sic] man for reminding you that it is possible that the relationship will have to end, that's not always the case. If you can gain the trust back, and if you really want to, it can work out, and your relationship will be that much stronger for it. People mess up. But that doesn't mean they're the scum of the earth. If he's working to regain your trust, let him try. If he doesn't, then the relationship is as good as over, but if he does, then you'll be much better for it.

Your body is telling you that "you can't take it," you're grossed out and annoyed and angry. And this isn't like Delta Boy where "my ex THOUGHT I cheated on her" this is you KNOWING he did it. If I cared about someone enough to where if they got with someone else it would hurt, and they cheated, then I'd be gone. If you snap a phone in half, that's it, the phone is broken and you have to buy a new one. If someone breaks your trust to that degree where it breaks in half, it cannot be mended. You're trying to talk on a phone that doesn't work and of course you can't "stop thinking about it. "

You don't get over it. Trust is a very valuable thing. The minute it is broke the relationship is done. My ex thought I cheated on her in our last three months together, and even though I repeatedly told her it was not true, she never believed me. I loved that girl with all my heart would have never cheated on her, but in her mind I did and nothing would ever be the same. I got tired of every time I brought up another girls name in general conversation, it got followed up with 'is that who you cheat on me with. ' The trust is gone and if I were you I would move on.

Trust is the most important thing in a relationship. I am going through a similar situation and we are both trying very hard to regain our trust in each other, but it is really hard and I am finding it especially difficult to trust him. But I feel that both of you have to try to understand each other. Ask him to put himself in your shoes and how it would feel if you had cheated on him. And try to understand why he did it (although I know that's extremely difficult). My boyfriend started talking to his ex when I started acting a little distant and he thought I was losing interest. It takes a lot of work but if there is understanding and love, I think it is a good idea to move past it and try to work on a stronger relationship.