How do I get over the feeling that I am scared she is going to cheat on me?

Well, lets put it this way--if you obsess, you will push her away and it will become a self fulfilling prophecy meaning the very thing you fear could happen.

Also, there are no guarantees in life--even with the best of intentions people can hurt us. The trick is learning how to react with maturity and move on when it occurs.

To me, it sounds like you weren't ready to get into a new relationship. You need to work on your trust issues and get past the pain of your last break up -- the last thing we want to do is make other people pay for the mistakes of someone else.

If I were you, I woudl back off a bit from the relationship to work on myself so I could be a good partner -- suspicion and jealousy will make the girl end up hating you and possibly doing the very thing you fear--run to someone else for comfort.

There is no easy answer here hun--give it time, if she proves herself to be someone you can trust, give it to her--if she ends up cheating on you -- then stay out of long term relationships a while until you find out more about what you want, who you are and can find better quality people to date.

Thank god I am not the only one that feels this way. I was hurt terribly by a relationship of two years and now I constantly accuse my guy. It's just that we gotta learn to be more confident in ourselves and trust that person even if it means we give them the oppurtunity to hurt us. It's life bud.

I don't think you ever will. I used to worry about that too and I would hate my boyfriend for being around girls but now I trust him enough to be around girls and I trust him enough not to cheat on me but I always think anything is possible.

Well, it's a different girl and I know what you are talking about, I've been through it before many times and it's hard. Try talking to her and tell her how you feel and what happened before.

I was in a relationship for 3 years and I was hurt multiple times. Then a couple months after that horrible break-up I met the best person in the world. It was very hard for me to trust him at first but now I trust him with everything. The only thing you can do is give them a chance. Let them take the chances to earn your trust otherwise you will never trust them. For example after 2 months of dating I let my boyfriend chill at his friend's girlfriend's house and stay the night, yes I freaked out a lot but then came to find out he didn't do anything irresponsible. Now we have been dating for three months, we have never fought or anything. You just have to give people the chances to earn your trust.

This is a really good question. I've never cheated but I feel as though I may have been cheated on. I have this same feeling you speak of. I have friends that cheat and try to convince me that it is only normal to do so. I honestly can say I don't believe it is normal to cheat. I believe that my friend has probably been cheated on before and found himself in the same situation you are in. I think the way he handles this is by cheating himself. Now I'm not telling you to go out and cheat but to me I have been able to rationalize it in my head.

The way I rationalized it was that if you can accept that everyone does it then it is normal and you do not have to worry. That kind of makes sense. But its a moral issue and you cant' expect anyone to have the same morals as you. You also can't expect anyone to make the same decision as you.

So if you are a faithful person the only thing you can do is have faith in the person you are with. Just remember that by not cheating you are a being a more honest person.
If you ever find out that you were cheated on know that you have the right to walk away knowing you are the better person. When someone cheats on you they are not worth your time. They cheat because of their own insecurities in life.

Don't be afraid of it. Just accept it if it happens. I'm not saying if she cheats on her then ignore it. I'm saying that they haven't given you a reason not to trust them then you should cause she deserves to be trusted. Shes not the one who cheated on you. Let her know that if she ever does cheat on you then you'll walk away from her for good and then just enjoy your lives and if something happens then it happens.

You can't control her so if she wants to she will. Theres just no point worrying about something if there isn't any evidence to worry about it and no possible way to prevent it from happening anyway.

It will go away. You just need more good experiences in dating and relationship. Concentrate on the positives about that girl. Namely her personality. If she is genuine, honest, kind and sincere, then this should be no problem. Also to avoid a lot of the causes of the feeling, don't get into her or your background regarding relationships and such. Something I heard a ways back is that girls cheat when they have an emotional detachment or something wrong with the relationship, while guys just like the ladies :) So if you feel that your relationship is solid (an this relies on your gut) then no problems, concentrate on you have her, she's yours and that she thinks the same way.