One of my very good friends who is also friends with all my friends has apparently had a crush on me for a while and is planning on telling me/asking me out next time we get together.
The problem is, although I really like him as a friend and maybe in the future there could be something more, he really is too immature for me.
He's sixteen and I'm eighteen, which isn't such a big deal, but he acts very young and is very naive. He's usually pretty close minded about new things and is very awkward about stuff he doesn't understand.
I don't know what to say to him. I keep thinking "i don't think we'd work out together" but he'd want an explanation. Or "we're too different to have that kind of relationship. " but I think he'd just what to know what I meant. Or maybe "i don't want to lose the friendship we have" but I think that just sounds like an annoying cop out.
And I think I would really hurt his feelings if I called him immature. He's such a big baby with stuff like that.
You could pull the age card. You're 18 now. And he's underage. You're headed in the direction of college or the work force, he has two more years of school to go through. Your lives are about to go in different directions anyways.
Or if you want to leave it open for later, hoping he will grow up
"Thanks, but I'm interested in someone else at the moment. "
"I am sorry but I just don't feel that way about you. " If he keeps digging into it you can always play dumb and tell him that you don't really know why but you don't believe it would work and that your feelings towards him aren't nearly as strong as the feelings you have had for others. If he keeps on asking why. Then be honest. Sometimes people won't stop till they either get an answer they want or one that will put them "in their place" so to speak. Good luck.
Well guys can be pretty thick headed. I'm one of them or used to be. I think the best way to say it is just say your not my type. If he wants to know your type just let him know. Say someone more cultured and developed. It'll hurt his pride for sure but at 16 his pride is gonna be hurt a lot. And if he really does respect you as a friend than he'll respect your choice.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 6 months ago
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