I met my x boyfriend over 3 years ago. We began to date and seven weeks into dating he told me he was in love with me. Two days later he told me he was going to give it a shot with his x for the sake of the kids. Three days later he called me and apologized and said he couldn't go back with her. We started dating again and 6 months later he asked me to move in with him. I didn't want to, I thought it was premature but my insecurities got the best of me and I moved in. About 6 weeks after moving in with him he got a notice from the landlord asking us to move out because he was selling the house. I freaked out a bit because he had two cats and no one wanted to rent to persons with pets. We finally found a place that I truly wasn't crazy about but the owner was willing to take cats. Also I am allergic to cats but I kept my mouth shut in fear that he would choose the cats over me. We began living together and soon into living together I sensed that he wasn't sure if he wanted to live with me anymore. We began to argue and nothing I said was ever right and he would always decided what my words meant even if it wasn't what I was saying. I was so upset that I went out one night and got drunk (which I have ever rarely done in my life) and I came home and we got into an argument. I threaten him and said I would call the police and then I just fell apart and cried. That of course made things worse and we began sleeping in separate rooms and a month later I moved out. We didn't see each other for a few months and then starting sleeping together again. Then he told me that he wanted to see other people. Then he changed his mind, we dating a bit and then I went on a trip he called me several times while I was away and when I came home I went over his house I walked in the door we embraced kissed and made love. About a week later he started to complain about me again, said I didn't even say I missed him when I got home. And we stopped seeing each other again. Once again we started sleeping together again. And this went on now for the last two years. Us sleeping together and whenever I wanted to talk about my feelings he would get mad, twist it into I only think about myself and It is all about me. On one occasion I told him I met someone and I didn't want to see him, because I want to get to know this new guy and it wasn't fair for me to be sleeping with him and be dishonest to the new guy. He twisted that and said I gave him an ultimatum, I never said anything about ultimatum. I clearly told him your out and new guy is in. It didn't work out with new guy because I was still in love with my x and I started sleeping with him again. This past winter I lost hope and just didn't want to continue. Most times we slept together (which is was very passionate and loving) I would end up crying. He stills find things wrong with me. The last email I sent was friendly and a joke. He took the joke seriously and mad at me again. What's up with this guy?
Whats up with you is the better question. Do you like all that drama in your life? This has been going on for a long time and nothing positive has come out of the situation. Just sex has been passionate for you but how about him? I find sex great. I've never had bad sex being a guy. Is he having a passionate feel for you? Doubtful. Just sex. If you have respect for yourself he will too. That means end this deal and move on before you waste more years and still are in this same place with him. I know and you know there is someone out there who is a better fit for you. Good luck.
First and foremost it hasn't been as much drama as you think. In the last 25 months I have hardly seen one another. I asked the question because he did have passion and loved me very much and this is the first time I have had someone truly love me but not willing to work together just rather tell me what he perceives to be wrong with me? I broke it off last Dec. I am also dating a wonderful guy. - 4 months ago
This guy sounds like a c*nt, he sounds very selfish and although he needs everything on his terms, you gave me good advice, so I'll try to do the same, if you're happy just having sex with him do it, but other than that he is no good. Who is he to get upset about you wanting to date someone else? He obviously doesn't want you, I know it's hard and if you've read my question on my ex you'll know men can be shitty. If he chooses to have sex with you and then just not want to talk about your relationship, he obviously just wants one thing.
Hi I have moved on and I have been in a new relationship for almost a year and a half ago. I no longer have contact. Honestly, I it was my anger that ended that relationship but what I couldn't understand is he loved me but why couldn't he forgive me. I have gotten over it and on with my life. Just thought I would throw it out there to see how people would respond. Thanks. - 4 months ago
Ok, you seem a bit insecure from what you've written and that maybe he's taking advantage of you because he knows he can. You've gotten yourself into a vicious cycle and it is never going to stop unless you put a stop to it. I understand that sex is great, but if there's no emotional attachment on his part, then he is just using you. He just sounds so mean and you shouldn't be with someone like that. He plays with your emotions and refuses to commit to you. He also shows complete lack of respect by not listening to you and twisting your words. Obviously he doesn't care about what you have to say and why would you even want to be with a guy like that? Also, it seems that you guys have tried to be together plenty of times and it hasn't worked out; maybe it is time to move on. Don't let him stop you because it doesn't sound as if he loves you.
Well, to me, knowing only what you've written here, he is either confused or just totally selfish. Or maybe both. Either way, this is really not someone who can have a healthy relationship with you right now. My advice is to break all ties with him - no more sex! It seems like that brings you closer to him and confuses you.
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