I, myself, like to think I'm a man of my words. I'll often promise to girls that I will always be there for them, and granted I know that that is practically impossible, I hold to my promise as best I can no matter what. If I say I'm going to be there for someone in tough times I will be there for them.
Does anyone else make promises that they do everything in their power to keep?
Update: Would you try and keep the promise even if the person became cruel, unkind, and pushed you away? (Assuming that this person is hurting inside and is confused)
More than a year ago
promises to me are important. no matter if they are close or not I always keep promises. I would not want someone to break my promise so I would never break another persons promise
i try my best to keep my promises to people... I'll try to be there for the person as best I could even if they were pushing me away... maybe they just need time/space to collect all their thoughts
yes I do try my hardest to make sure I keep a promise I've made even if the person has become cruel. the fact of that reasoning is that the person who has become cruel, unkind, and pushed you away, is probably the person who needs you the most.
keeping and continuing to keep a promise is a very grand trait it shows dedication honesty compasion and shows the person you really care about them.
"the fact of that reasoning is that the person who has become cruel, unkind, and pushed you away, is probably the person who needs you the most."
That is seriously one of the most simple and incredible observations I've ever heard. It makes perfect sense. I think it's something we all know but never really recognize. I can't even begin to tell you how insightful that was, especially for someone your age. Awesome, truly, awesome. - More than a year ago
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Thank you. I believe everyone realizes it also but they are confused because in the process they are being hurt by the unkind person. As many know it is really hard to put a smile on your face and be there for someone who isn't showing you any signs that they want you there, ey're showing the exact opposite. - More than a year ago
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I've had to endure extremes of that. Like...ULTRA extremes. It's so hard to help and be there for someone who treats you like dirt. - More than a year ago
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Tell me about it.. but when that happens to me I just remember that this person does mean something to me, that they're hurting right now, and I need to help them. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't haha.. depending if its an extreme case or not :) - More than a year ago
I am there for people no matter what. If I tell him I am going to be there, than he can expect that from me. I never deny my promises because I am an honest person. I had a friend who went through some pretty rough times and during those times, I told him that I'll help him out no matter what. I was pretty much there for him every time he needed me, whether it was about money or any other need. Lots of his other friends - "friends" started to give up on him because he started to give up. He basically started to push people away. He wasn't any different with me, he started to neglect and hate. That's when I told myself - I could never give-up on this guy. So, I sticked around and I kept my promise. I gave him help when he needed it. I just wanted to reassure him that not everyone was walking away. He's doing great now, but to think if I would have given up on him - I am not so sure if he would have been around.
I definitely am there for people and I try to help out as much as I possibly can.
Alright! That's great. I'm so glad there are people out there, like some other posters, who really go the extra mile for a friend. - More than a year ago
I keep the ones I know I'm going to make. My guy and I told each other to always be honest and loyal. For these past 10 months, I have been loyal, and I know real well he is too, and we always tell each other our honest opinions, even if they can hurt our feelings, we make sure that there are no secrets between us. So far, it has straightened our relationship more than my past relationships.
Sometimes being honest is cruel, and hurts alot, but we usually talk out our problems and try and figure out what makes us hurt and confused. Its part of being in a relationship.
I had no idea relationships like these even existed outside of mine! Congratulations you and him have truly built a strong foundation. - More than a year ago
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Thanks. we have our fights, but its usually me that overreacts. But then makeup sex is really great afterward. :) - More than a year ago
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Without overreacting women men would be lost! Sometimes we need someone to freak out for us to see the truth...sigh...
Have you ever made any other SUPER big promises to someone? - More than a year ago
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Not really. Its hard to figure out If I will stay with him forever. there is always that "what if". he told me he loves me, and I do to. I can't tell him that I promise to love him forever, because what if I'm not with him forever? I can't promise to move in with him, or support him, or anything major like that. We do promise to always give advice to each other, and call each other if we need to hear the other persons voice. The future is always brought up, but nothing is set in stone. - More than a year ago
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Though that was a great response, I was referring more towards promises made to people OTHER than him... :p - More than a year ago
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I try. Not everyone is perfect. - More than a year ago
Yes, unless it's too far fetched. Example: I made a promise to one of my ex'es that I loved him and I would marry him. That was, until my family found out about his background, and he made me either choose to leave my school, my job, my family for him (where I'd have to find a new job, marry him whenever he felt it was time to hand a ring, and trust him) or stay with my family and lose him. I've been promising this since I was 18 (I was 21 when we "broke up"). He knows me since I was 14. This was a promise I could not keep. I have though kept promises even to people I don't like, much more to people I care. Likewise, I find it very skeptical when guys say they miss me and love me, and yet don't keep their word on the most simple things, continuously (e.g.: I'll see you this Saturday, and not show up or give a heads-up). This is really something individual. People who break promises may not always mean to do so, but when they care they try all they can to make it right. Just use your common sense. Is the promise fitting with the current situation? For one, you wouldn't deny a fellow human being for some food and shelter because he/she hurt you in the past. Really depends on what this promise is. And this person "hurting inside and confused." I may not be in the same situation at all, but for someone who previously was hurting inside and very confused and exploded at one of my ex'es, best thing you do to that person if you want to break away, is to gently say why you can't keep the promise, and let the person grow on their own. It may do them some good. You can always try to talk to them in the future and see how things are.
Also, if the promise is to always help someone, then that can change over time. You're very right about promises. For me, I don't make promises I don't intend to keep. I usually factor in everything so that I would still keep the promise even if things go to hell. - More than a year ago
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Well, sometimes people are unrealistic. Sometimes you can't predict the future and the promise is no longer attainable. Sometimes you're moved out of guilt or sympathy, and those feelings may have changed to say, maybe feeling used and frustrated? Really depends. Regardless, one must always factor in common sense. Else, the promise may become a burden on both parties and actually harm rather than help. - More than a year ago
of course yo my friends that I told you about that I am close wit if I promised them something I would do anything for her to keep even if it meant givin my life to save hers like if she axed me to promise to always help and protect her I could do it in a heart beat
I haven't really promised anything. If my girl asks me to promise to her that I will always be there for them, then I would promise of course. I feel as if it's an automatic kind of thing. I want to be there for my girl, and I should. All you can do is your best. No excuses. And it does becomes more difficult to keep this kind of promise when your girlfriend becomes unkind or something of that nature. This is something that I have experienced first hand. If you truly lover a girl, you would be patient, wait for her to calm down, and return to her regular mood, and stay by her side. Just like it says in 1 Corinthians chapter 13 (i forgot what verse it is, sorry), "Love is patient"
I do everything I can, if I tell her I'm going to be there, I'm going to be there no matter what, what's the point of lying, unless your trying to hide something, and bs is not good in relationships at all. Eventually they will find out.
Do guys REALLY mean it when they say it then, as a few weeks ago I was upset and my friend(who also is my ex) sat there with me wiping the tears from my eyes and said he will always be there for me. Is this not something that is said just to make you feel better at the time,or would you not say it if you didn't mean it? - More than a year ago
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Sparklesista, I think it really depends on the person. I know some people, like myself, are so genuine that we really do mean what we say. It's a part of who we are, and yes, sometimes it is said just to make someone else feel better.
I've been put through hell, seriously horrible hell, by a girl I was once amazing friends with, but I promised I'd be there for her, and I want to be there for her, and I want to help her. It all depends on who you are. - More than a year ago
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