My girlfriend and I have been going out for 2 months now. When we were at the mall with a small group of friends, I attempted to hold hands with her, but she rejected me and pulled away. We usually hold hands. On the way to the mall I attempted to put on her seat belt, and she wanted me to get off. I laid my head on her shoulder on the way to the mall (my friend was driving) and she shrugged her shoulders and wanted me to get off. When ever I asked her what's wrong, she said nothing was wrong.
While we are eating with friends I ask her why she is acting so differently, she first says that there's nothing wrong, but then she tells me that she doesn't want to talk about it and she also told me to smile and be happy (our graduation was only 3 days away). I insist to know what's going on for about 5 mins, then I leave it alone. She left the table without saying goodbye, and after sitting at another table while at the mall, she left once again without saying goodbye. I called her that night to see if she would like to talk about what was bothering her, but she didn't want to talk about it and told me to forget it.
Today we had graduation practice, we had little eye contact, she approached me once with friendly body movements, I told her in a funny manner "what do you want", and she left. After the practice, she came up to me to say hi and leaned forward for a kiss on the cheek, and I kissed her. We ended up playing video games with friends at school (we usually do this) and had an OK time. When she's about to leave we talked, she told me what she was gonna do that day, I told her what I was gonna do, her younger brother comes, and she says "I got to go". She didn't make eye contact with me and never said goodbye.
Just to let you know more about the relationship and my girlfriend: Before we got together, she really liked this guy(joey). He left to tennesse for college. Before we got together I told her to choose between me and him, she picked me. About 2 weeks later, we talked about what was gonna happen to us after graduation. We didn't say much, we both didn't know where we were gonna go.
But now we are both going to the same university, but its the same university that Joey attends! All this funny acting from her has me very confused and has popped up many questions in my mind. Is she going to break up with me after graduation because she wants to be with Joey? Is she telling me to forget about it just so I can be happy during my graduation? (i called her today, she said she meant it when she told me to forget about it, I get the feeling that she doesn't want to break up after I heard this). She did mention about a week ago that she was having family problems, maybe this is what is bothering her, or maybe the fact that I didn't really talk to her about her family problem.
Overall, I am really confused, she doesn't want to talk about it, I do, I'm hurt and it doesn't seem like she cares (she keeps on asking me my location, and almost nothing else)
You might not believe it but these kinds of things happen a lot, just in different ways and different severities. Without looking at Joey, it is clear that your girlfriend is going through something, family problems may be it. She may only want you to just be there for her instead of get involved. Sometimes people want listeners, not intervener's.
Regarding the cold attitude she as with you. She could very well be scared and nervous about Graduation.
Does she ever let you hold her hand in public? If so, then you might need to just give her space. The hard reality of it all is that if she is planning on breaking up with you, you can't really do anything about it. Just don't escalate things by forcing yourself into her life.
If things get really bad, and she starts completely ignoring you, doing and saying mean things to you, and abusing you, then you'll be left with two options.
1. Continue to be patient (you should, IMO, only do this if all she's doing is telling you nothing is wrong)
Or 2. Shock her. Confront her and make it damn clear what she's doing is not okay and that it hurts. Tell her you really care about her, that you know you can't ever understand what she's going through but that the least you could do is be there for her. After you've established your good intentions, very sternly tell her that something IS going on, and it IS affecting you, her, and your relationship. You'd have to be very serious, make sure she knows you care, then lay it on her.
I wish you the best of luck, and I really hope/don't think you'll ever have to confront her like that, so for now just be patient, give her room, and when she needs a shoulder to lie on, lend it to her. Work at her own pace.
Good luck and if you have further questions please private message me, I'd hate to see this relationship go to hell.
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