What exactly are we?

You are both young and he goes away to college. I don't think he's going to want to settle down and have a GF. If he's really interested in you he will show it and he will call you his Girlfriend in front of other eligible/attractive single females without you asking/pressuring him to. If you have to pressure him into a relationship I doubt it will stick for long.

If you ask him "if he thinks that we could be more than what we are some day " he will probably tell you what you want to hear and say yes. He may be lying he may be telling the truth. Words aren't good evidence. Action is.

Basically when a dude avoids naming what kind of relationship they have, they're usually trying to have a defense when they get caught fooling around with other girls.

I could be wrong. Wait for more answers. But don't choose the answer you would like to be true. Choose the answer that is probably true.

Sounds to me like you are being overly anxious AKA clingy. If he doesn't respond right away when he's at school... um, he's at school? You answered your own question. As for the fact that he never texts you, some guys are just like that. I myself believe that texting is something reserved for high school kids, and I never participate in it unless someone texts me first. Your guy could be the same way.

And when you told him you missed him and he said "you missed me that much, huh" was him getting you to stroke his ego. I'm pretty sure this guy likes you, why don't you just talk to him about it? It seems like you are already pretty much dating, you just need t o make it "official". Go get him, girl.

He sounds like he is enjoying spending time with you when he is around but that is all that is happening. He's probably not ready for anything more than that. The fact that he did not have much to say when you told him you missed him is not good.

Until he asks you to be his girlfriend, you are not his girlfriend. Stop making out with him until that happens. I think you have already gone too far in your attachment to a guy who is not attached to you. Again, it's obvious that he enjoys spending time with you but that is not the same as a guy wanting you to be his girl.

Well virginity is a loss, especially if you've been a virgin until adult hood, and for you to lose it to a guy that you aren't even sure of your relationship with, that's painful.

Did he know that you were a virgin? If he didn't, you should have let him know. It would have been less painful for you. If he did, then just let him know that you WERE a virgin and you just had a bad reaction cause it hurt a lot, maybe next time you two need to have more foreplay in the preparation. Find some sex books with tips on how to have sex for inexperienced women like yourself so that it's as comfortable and possibly pleasurable as possible.

Also, you really need to talk to him about what exactly is happening between you two. You don't have to tell him you're ready to be his wife or nothing but let him know you have feelings for him and would just like to try maybe dating and see how it goes, not even necessarily exclusively if he's wanting to see what happens. And don't act weird around him, you two have cuddled before and all of that so it should be natural. Putting a name to what's going on between you two shouldn't suddenly change the dynamic of your relationship.

but I would not recommend having sex with him again unless it is exclusive because then you're just friends with benefits, which is not the category you want to be in.

i was stuck in the same situation. I found out that we were "talking" which is basically unofficially dating. but I agree with what doubleoh said