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Should I still be with him?

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Anonymous User (Age:30 to 35)     When: More than a year ago
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My boyfriend is always traveling, I caught him registering on porn sites, online dating sites and keeping in touch with girls he met overseas in bars. His condoms were used up while he was traveling but insisted he used it for masturbation. He had sores on his penis after a long 2 month overseas trip. The sores looked like some STD but insisted he washed it too hard while bathing. I caught him cheating on me once too, but the girl ditched him saying he is lousy in bed.

I know the girl and she's not attractive nor kind. They are on bad terms. All of the above happened a while ago, about 2 years ago. And for all that he had done, he always tells me I'm the only one he wants marry and treats me really well. He once told me he is getting old and his sex drive is declining, so he tells me that I should be happy as I can be assured he will not be unfaithful. Should I still be with him if I still love him and if I can imagine loving him even if he's getting older and all? We're 10 years of age apart, about 23 other guys are interested in me recently, but I only have the special feeling with my boyfriend.

I would never want to cheat on my boyfriend as I know how hurtful it feels, so I'm not giving any of the guys any chance to get near me. Anyway, the main question to ask is should I still be with him? He has been unfaithful to me numerous times and he also lies about every small thing on earth. Recently he lied to me again. He said he is out of town but he's actually not. He also has a bad temper. But I still love him and though I'm really heartbroken each time, I can bring myself to forgive him. However, I don't want to feel heartbroken if I have a choice, it's a horrifying experience. My friends think I'm young and I deserve someone better, but I can't bear to leave him.


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Just-A-Random-Guy      When: More than a year ago
Use your own judgment:

"He has been unfaithful to me numerous times and he also lies about every small thing on earth. Recently he lied to me again. "

"I caught him registering on porn sites, online dating sites and keeping in touch with girls he met overseas in bars. His condoms were used up while he was traveling but insisted he used it for masturbation. He had sores on his penis after a long 2 mth overseas trip. The sores looked like some STD but insisted he washed it too hard while bathing. "

" I caught him cheating on me once too, but the girl ditched him saying he is lousy in bed. "

If those aren't good enough reasons, you must not playing with a full deck. If your smart, which at the moment I doubt very much, find yourself a nice guy that won't pull this type of crap on you. Why do women let emotions get in the way of logic? I give up. :(
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haywire      When: More than a year ago
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Anonymous User      When: 8 months ago
Hang on...you say he treats you really well but he is on internet dating sites, has incredibly suspicious lesions on his penis, and has cheated on you and lied to you numerous times. Sweetie, that is not being treated really well...remove this guy from your life, he is manipulative and mean and you will get over him..and you will meet someone who really, really does treat you well. I notice this post is from 9 months ago...I hope you took the advice from the other posts!
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Peaches38      When: More than a year ago
What I can say is you are thinking with you heart and not your head. I want you stop and think things through. In the mean time, there are a few things that caught my eye and I have to comment on:

1. He has sores on his penis. - If it looks like an STD it is. Trust me. He has been washing his penis for some years now and he knows how hard to wash it. What he has told you is an untruth.

2. Who masturbates using condoms? Does that even make sense? Untruth number 2.

3. He has been unfaithful several times . Speaking from experience, once a cheater always a cheater. Whether he is good in bed or not. It is not about the sex, it is about being able to do it with someone else and not get caught.

4. You are right: you are young and you do have choices. The issue is that you have to feel that you deserve better. He is not the only walking around this green earth. Think of how you treat him. Does he give you the same consideration and care? You deserve someone that will treat you the same way that you treat them.


Think about it.
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