Guys, bad news. My new friend finally spoke up. I knew this before, but didn't realize how serious it is until now. He recently broke up with his cheating girlfriend, whom he loved , he said that she was the one. He moved away. He told me that he still occasionally talks to her on the phone. I know he is hurt, it will take who knows how long to heal that broken heart. At the same time he has a crush on me. I told him that I don't like to mess around, we can be friends, I really understand him, cause I was in the same situation. The problem is: uncertainty. It's killing me. I want to give it a time to see if he really "in love" or "in lust" with me. Question: how long does it take for a guy to get over his crazy ex? Is there possibilities that he might go back to her? Can a guy forgive such a thing? One more horrifying detail: he has huge amount of debt in student loans. I like him no matter what, cause to me he is the one. Debt can be paid off, he will move on eventually, but there is no assurance in the future... I am ready for relationship now, but he is not. Please talk to me.
Have you posted before? I feel like I've read something about this, but I don't know where/when.
Okay, well, I'd like to know how long he was with her and how serious it was. I mean, were they living together? Engaged? When did they break up?
My XH and I broke up close to three years ago, and it took me a good year and a half to get over it. We were together for 16 yrs, though, and have two kids. He was cheating, but if he'd wanted to work on our marriage, I would have. So yes, it can be forgiven.
BUT - important! - I realize now that I was very unhappy with him and much happier now. It took a while, though.
There really is no way to know what the future will hold. I wish I could give you some definitive answer, but there isn't one.
I am also ready for a relationship with someone who isn't, so I really feel for you. I am trying to keep my eyes open for other possibilities, while still maintaining a friendship with him.
Okay you don't want to be the rebound chick I completely understand. You don't want to lose a friendship I completely understand. All you can do for him is be his friend and comfort him until he has given himself enough time to heal. You should tell him that. Tell him you want to give him plenty of time to lick the wounds because when you get with him you don't want him to have any other thoughts other than you when you two become an item. Be honest you know what you want to say to him, just say it. Your very intelligent from how you just explained what is going on with you two. Don't beat around the bush with something that you want in life. Make sure your making yourself completely clear on the situation, and let him take it from there. Good luck
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