My girlfriend wants to have a "break", now what?

She is checking out her options for the new school year. I am sorry to be so blunt about it, but I can't put it any other way than what it is. She doesn't know if she wants to come back to you so she is going to keep you on the hook, and she is going fishing with the other pole. Your her last option for a boyfriend and if I were you I would look for another option too, and when she sees you looking for a friend she will come running back wanting to know why your not waiting for her. You can wait on the hook for her to make a decision or you can yank the hook out and hurt now, and heal quicker and move on with someone who deserves you. It's up to you to find out if she is really worth all this effort. Good luck.

Well its funny cause I have been going through the same exact thing with my girlfriend, or well ex in this case now. The harsh part about it was the same night she made out with her ex at the same hang out spot I was out. She never drank before so I can say she was really drunk but it doesn't make up for what she did. You have to let it go, wait a month and some change until you contact her. If she contacts you before that then you have some clear and can initiate a conversation, but only if she starts it first.

As for whether you decide in the end whether to take her back or not, that's for you to decide, really out yourself into the position and ask yourself what is right for you. It may be a while before she finally realizes you were what's best for her and she comes crawling back. Until then don't put your life on hold, go out, have fun. if news gets back to her your having fun she's going to wonder why is it that your doing this, and something like this will drive her back. Until then when you do talk to her, don't sound desperate and don't not at any cost even bring up the topic of her break up. and don't be specific, tell her your going out tonight but not with who or where, tell her you have plans if she ask what's up for the weekend, but don't give nay detail. The key here is to make her curious and wonder why is it that you are not stressing this. If she really loves you, you will know. Until then don't put your life on hold. I'm seeing now that time mends all things , and if it was meant to be then you will be find, if not then trust me there's some other chick out there that'll make you a whole lot happier. Let me know what happens.

I agree with deadlovealiveagain. Beat her to it. I believe she's doing that exact thing with you. You're the crumbs. She's on the look out for someone else IF she hasn't already got there.. A "break" is the beginning of the end. Go out with your mates tonight and pull some tottie!

OK when something like this happens this is what you need to do. Leave her be. It's hard I know but don't call her message her or contact her in anyway even through friends. With something like this the chance of her coming back to you is reduced almost down to 0% because you would be driving her away. Real life is nothing like the movies. As far as you being Girlfriend and Boyfriend I would say let it be. I wouldn't go so far as ignoring her that will only have negative consequences. If she says hi say hi back, if she wants a conversation let her have one, if she wants to contact you let her. You have to act like everything is fine w/you. It's really had with the first Girlfriend especially when it is a long term relationship. I went through the same thing except I kept chasing after her.

Right now her saying she doesn't know how long it will take is her way of saying she is having second thoughts about you guys and needs to re think things. It's harsh I know but it'll work out for the best eventually. You guys are just starting college and she is in a position where there are parties and other guys. If she doesn't know at the beginning of college what she wants to do then it's better to find out now than towards the end of college. You also have the same options open to you also. There are parties and other girls to hang out with.

I would say if she wants to take a break fine but you can't put your whole life on hold while she is thinking. However, don't try the jealousy game w/her, it'll backfire. If you are honestly having fun w/out her then she will be the one wanting you back. The other guy by the way is probably going to screw it up w/her anyways if they do go out. Right now the "break" really means that she is exploring other options and if she goes out w/someone else then it's not considered cheating. I would just start hanging w/friends and talk to them. I found that after a serious relationship if I talk to other people then it lessens the burden on myself. This is something she needs to figure out. Don't go looking for a rebound either, it'll screw you up and she will consider this cheating and she will never get back together w/you (don't you just love the double standards that are here). I really do have to reiterate that you don't contact her though unless she asks you too. You can send her a text or an email (don't call) after 3-4 weeks to see how she is doing but anymore than that is going to really annoy her. I wish I could offer you some other support because I really do feel your pain. Right now just think of it as a break up. Get over her and rethink your relationship w/her. Go out and do stuff because it will take your mind off of her. For me the 1-2 weeks I'm in shock, I don't really care or anything, then depression hits for 3-4 weeks after the shock, 4-7 weeks is reminiscing about the relationship and after that you will be over her if you accept it. Hopefully she will comeback a more mature person.