I have known this man for 15 years, and for 5 of those years we completely stopped talking because he got in a relationship and had a child. I actually kicked him out of my life 5 years ago. I guess I couldn't take the heart ache anymore so many women he had that worked for him and made him money( yes people he was an actual pimp), and after I got rid of him I met and married a very nice man that I love but not as much as this guy that called me out of the blue and told me he was done with his baby's mother and he was done with pimping. So we got back together in a sexual and conversational type of relationship. I know he is sleeping with another woman as well and I am fine with that, but I don't know if he is doing that because I am still sleeping with my husband too?. He knows that I am married, and he isn't fine with it. I have actually had thoughts of leaving my husband for this guy, but he tells me not to leave him, but then he makes me cry telling me that he is disappointed in me for marrying a guy he knows that I am not in love with. Which is true because I am not in love with my husband I am in love with this guy. Now we are just at a point that we are not sleeping together anymore( I chose not to sleep with him anymore well for now) but we are just talking more and more. He told me that I have to make a decision on what I want. If I want my husband or if I want to be with him. I want to be with him, but I remember him telling me not to leave my husband. You know he tells me one thing and then he tells me another. I don't know if his anger makes him tell the truth or if a good conversation that we have is the truth. I need help bad. He has put me through so much in 15 years, and he knows that I have put up with his shit for a long time, and I guess I am a push over when it comes to him, and I don't want to hurt my husband, but I have made my decision to be with this guy. Actually I should have never left him I knew he was the one when I fell in love with him 15 years ago. I guess I thought if I had got married then I would have rid my feelings for this guy, but now they are stronger than ever before. My question is what do you think about all of this?? True love or GAMES ???
He used to be a pimp, a profession based on smooth talking and games. Don't ruin a good thing for this man. He WAS the one, but not anymore. 15 years is a lot and it is expected to have feelings, but you need to move on without him. Focus on the good life you have with your current husband. Don't fall back into a trap with the other guy. He will continue to sleep around on you even if you were together and you don't want that. He had his chance and it has passed, now you must enjoy your stable relationship with your husband. A man who is with you for the right reason.
I think if it was true love he wouldn't tell you he is disappointed in you. Especially when he has a lot to be disappointed in himself in. If it was true love he would be understanding of you, and not try to "one up you" in an argument by getting mad or putting you down or giving you an ultimatum. That's psychology: If a person makes them feel guilty/whatever then they do what the person wanted them to. Or something like that; it isn't understanding. Your feelings are probably stronger because he sounds like he has been using you for emotional support throughout the years. I have the feeling it's just an emotional game. You need to separate from this as soon as you can. And you're going to have to take him out of the spotlight in your life. Better yourself. Not him. Also, it sounds like you're going to need to take some time to yourself to figure out what's going to ultimately make you happy.
Ok first of all I'm one of those guys that is really a nonbeliever about love...with that here's my story...About six months ago I meet this girl she...
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