A girl that I am dating has kids. I want to get close to them and take them to the movies, or...

yeah, she probably just doesn't want her kids to get attached to someone. ya know, then if she continues to date. then guys will be in and out of their life, and that's just confusing for them.

If you are wanting to take them just you and the kids, that wouldn't be a good idea. I got 5 kids and if I had just met a guy I would be scared of letting him that close in, maybe try doing a family thing? How about you all go to the zoo or the movies or something. get to know them first, and she will open up

It takes a single mom time to let someone she is seeing get close to her kids. She has to know that you are serious about your relationship and you are in it for the long haul. For the fear of her babies getting close to you and then you bailing on her and her kids are the ones that get hurt. So just be patient with her and keep reassuring her that you love her and you want to be with her and you aren't going anywhere. Good Luck To You!

She might be overprotective of her children, or she might want them to stay close to their real dad, depending on the situation. But if you guys are going to get serious, you need to have a good relationship with her children so I would talk to her about that.