Ok, so here's the deal. I've been going out with my boyfriend for about 9 months now. About a wk and a half ago we had a a bit of a fight on msn. We had said our good nights until he msged me asking why I was peeved. I had changed my status and said I was peeved. I rolled my eyes and said 'whatever' when he asked what was up. I said it's nothing, go to sleep I can deal with it myself. at the time I was actually having a heated argument with my sister and was getting really emotional. we had been fighting for 2 weeks and I took it out on my bf. he kept trying to ask and he finally said 'fine' then logged off.
the next day I texted him saying that we should talk when he got back in town as he was going to be gone for the weekend. he replied by saying 'maybe we just shouldn't talk at all.' I called him twice that same day the 2nd time he hung up on me. I tried again about 3 days later. I called him once but he wouldn't pick up. I txted him once to explain what happened. that same night I saw him online (I have 2 msn accounts. he blocked me on my first one) when I msged him, he blocked and deleted me. I tried to contact him again last Friday but his phone would ring once, followed by some silence and then straight to voicemail (I think he must be hitting "Ignore" on his phone). I sent him an e-mail that same night to explain the entirety of the situation and what had been happening to me prior to me blowing up at him. I've heard nothing so far.
this past week has felt like a month. I went with days of no sleep. by that I mean 2 consecutive days followed by maybe 3 or 4 hrs of some sleep and then another day with no sleep. I've been having palpitations and indigestion. it doesn't matter what I eat. I've lost a considerable amount of weight because of the stress that I'm putting myself through. the fact that I've tried to communicated with him so many times makes me feel like I'm suffocating him and now he doesn't want to hear from me. the thing is, this is our first fight. I wouldn't even call it a real fight.
things were going so well until I brushed him off that night. now I don't know what to do. part of me says wait it out a bit before doing anything I might later regret. the other part of me says that I should take his silence as an indication that it's over. I'm torn in between and now I'm just trying hard not to let this compromise my health.
what am I supposed to do?
Update: ok, nothing so far but strangely enough I feel liberated. is this normal? I mean the last time we saw each other was four weeks ago. we hadn't talked since May 16th.
4 months ago
Update: well it's been 2 wks exactly since the the fight and I have not heard from him at all. he hasn't officially broken up with me. I think it's safe to assume that this is going nowhere so I'm just going to leave things the way they are.
4 months ago
To start off, I hear your pain. I have been there. and it sucks big time.
2nd, no matter what the outcome of the situation is, LEARN from you mistakes.
Just because you had a fight with your sister, doesn't mean you have the right should take it on him.
You should have controlled yourself and if you feel you were under too much pressure to control yourself, just tell him politely that you are in a tough spot and you'll get back to him later. Guys have feelings too FYI.
Now to the position you are in, give it some time. let him breathe, see from there.
If he doesn't get back to you within a week. That is really bad on him for disrespecting you and making you wait during this time and you should call it quits at that point.
If he does get back to you, explain him the situation and tell him that you a SO SORRY and that it will never happen again.
I know that what I did was wrong and all I've done is apologize. it's even more difficult at we don't see much of each other to begin with. he works and I go to school. we see each other every few weeks and for the past 2 months we'd talk to each other for maybe 15 - 20 mins on the phone per week. I'm just wondering if he's using this little fight as a cover for something else. is he hiding something from me? - 4 months ago
I think I would wait it off if I were in your situation since it's only been a week. Don't stress out about it though. Whatever happens, it's going to happen and it look like you don't have much say in it since he doesn't want to hear what you gotta say. Stressing out and worrying about it isn't going to do you any good but to bring you irregular periods and break outs. Be patient. Go out and have fun with your friends and try to keep it off from your head until you hear it back from him. I hope you hear from him soon. :S
I don't know why, but I actually have this gut wrenching feeling that he's already broken up with me despite the fact that he hasn't told me himself. - 4 months ago
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I can kind of understand how you feel. I'm living with a boyfriend of 5 years right now. He's pretty bad at returning calls or text messages. We were far apart for 4 months right before I moved in with him. We were both busy so we had times when we didn't contact each other for 2weeks. But it would piss me off quite a bit when he wouldn't call back when I needed to talk to him about things. I don't know. You know him a lot better than me on that part. - 4 months ago
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I completely agree with you. You've been patient enough. You deserve better, you did your part. - 4 months ago
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