How do I get him back for real?

Well normally, and sadly this is usually the case, no ex-girlfriends and boyfriends can't be friends. Of course it all depends on how the relationship ended. You're going to have to move on, and he's going to have to move on, then when you guys are past it you can probably make up and be friends. In the mean while.you can always waste your money on love spells to give you false hope :).

I went out with my ex for 3 years and we did break up for a couple of months during this time. One night we were both out in the same club and went home to 'talk'. I ended up in bed with him and when he said that he didn't want to be with me it hurt so much. Foolishly I went back for more several weeks later (yes I know I'm a fool!) but I made it clear that he had to get back with me if he wanted to sleep with me again. So we got back together for a year, of which about 2 months were good. Eventually we realised that even after all that time we weren't meant to be together. I'm now with a man I love so much its unbelievable and have been for 2 years! Every so often my ex comes crawling back (hes still single-haha!) claiming he wants to be friends but still he always looks for something more. So I tell him where to go. I think that if you have been with someone for that long you still feel attached to them even after you break up and at first you want to be friends. After a while, whether you meet someone else or not, (my friend is still single and loving it a year after her break up with her boyfriend of 2 years and went through the exact same thing as me (and every other girl!) of wanting to be friends with ur ex-at first) you realize why you broke up and why you are too busy to be bothered. If, however, it is meant to be I do believe it will work out, but generally if you're not working out after 3 years you never will! I wish you the best of luck and hope you have lots of fun finding a guy who treats you right!

hmmm.i'm so sorry to say this but by the looks of it, he just wants to get into your pants. maybe he misses that familiar feeling to be with someone you've grown accustomed to being around, however he doesn't feel the same. I know it's difficult because you want so badly to believe that he still has feelings for you when he says so but his actions say otherwise.

3.5 years is a really long time to be with someone. I know it's hard to walk away from that, but sometimes when there's no more fuel, how can you keep the fire burning? what I'm saying is, if he doesn't feel anything for you and just wants sex, how can you live with yourself knowing that he's just using you for physical things. I mean it may seem okay at first but when you catch yourself constantly thinking about him and then reality sinks in.it really weighs heavy on your heart.

before you even try to get back with him, I think you should seriously think about you first and what you want. you're grown accustomed to fitting him into the equation, like if you make any major decisions you'll consider him first. you should start thinking of you as an individual instead of a unit because that's not what you guys are right now. maybe that'll help you figure if it's really him you want to be with. I mean if he keeps doing this to you, like being together and the breaking up again.it's so unstable and not to mention unhealthy. do you really want to be someone who'll walk out on you when things get tough? can you really rely on him being there when you need him the most? sweetie, I think it's time to take off the rose colored glasses and see him for what he really is.

i hope you really do take the time to reassess your relationship with him alone before jumping into things head first. remember, you are a human being and have feelings too. if you really are the girl for him, he'll be the one doing the asking and begging for things to work out AND most importantly he'll actually follow through by acting out on those promises. he can talk all he wants but it's time that he SHOWS and MEANS what he's saying.

Hang in there. There are better days ahead!