Are things really 50/50 or is it more biased towards women?

oh boy oh boy. you're really asking to get grilled aren't you? ok but seriously.

Realistically speaking, there's no such thing as 50/50. It's usually something like 40/60 or 60/40. Maybe one in a billion will have a 50/50 relationship.

I'm pretty independent so I don't usually ask someone for help, even if it means breaking my back by lifting a heavy box. that's just me. I know, I should let the guy help me out and all but I'm not one to stand there and wait like a damsel in distress when I know I can do it myself.

I don't know why guys expect supper to be ready when they get home. I'm not saying that I don't like to cook, I do. I like to do things to show my guy that he's care for and appreciated, but to me, if a guy can't sew his own clothes, wash his own laundry or cook his own meal from scratch (sorry frozen dinners or take out don't count), then you are axed on my list. I'm not saying you have to wear the skirt in the relationship but we ladies appreciate it when you come to the kitchen and willing to help chop the veggies or stir the pot. I enjoy making food for the people I love and I find it quite attractive when a guy is in the kitchen with me. To me it shows that he's taking initiative, not selfish and wants to share the load. I gladly do the same when there's chores that men do as well, whether it's shoveling the snow or raking the leaves.

But whatever it is I'm doing for my partner, I also expect to be appreciated and cared for in a similar manner. Something called giving AND receiving. I know I've been in relationships where I'm always the one giving more and taking little so now, it's high time that I find a guy who's willing to be break their back for me. I know this will sound cruel but I have zero tolerance for the lazy. I'm a pretty hardworking person and I expect that my partner will also be the same, unless there's some quality about them that deserves consideration.

I know that men expect this out of their women.'A cook in the kitchen, a lady in company and a whore in the bedroom.' Nothing wrong with that, but honestly what can you guys possibly offer to equal that expectation of women? And, no the whole man is the bread winner theory will NOT suffice. Like come on, it's the 21st century. Women are NOW expected to be a mother, wife, lover, daughter, friend, sister and a career woman. What more do you guys want? Such demands can be very overwhelming. And yes I also know that there are women who choose to stay at home and do little while their man is slaving away, but not everyone's in the same boat. I guess if a guy finds himself in that situation and is unhappy about it then for pete's sake, get yourself out of it and find someone who'll work as hard as you. It's the only logical thing to do.

Ok, this is just my opinion on things and I'm now running out of space to provide further insight. If you want to discuss this further, you're very welcome to message me. If I've offended anyone I apologize.

You are right, things should be 50/50!
When my husband comes from work, dinner is ALWAYS ready and on the table. He works all day, and I get the luxury of staying home...so I feel that when he walks in the door, he should be pampered and taken care of. Our house is also absolutely spotless at all times. He works hard so I am able to stay home, so I do everything I possibly can for him. He does not have to lift a finger in this house...never. And I believe that's the way it should be.

Women work too. Why should they have to come home from work and cater to their husband just because he's a man?

50/50 doesn't work when men and women divvy up the work. If you want things to be 50/50, that means I cook today, you cook tomorrow; you pay this time, I pay next. That's how my parents have functioned for years, and it's worked out fine for them.I think it helps that my mom's a feminist and my dad follows the whole "women belong in the kitchen" belief--it balances out.

Nowadays women are independent and just as exhausted from a long day at work as you are. So it wouldn't be fair for you to expect supper on the table. Things should be 50/50, but the only way that is possible is when things aren't expected of the other person. When two people do things for each other to help each other out because they WANT to, not because they're EXPECTED to. When my boyfriend opens the car door for me, I still thank him and I still lean over and open his door for him. The key is to not take anything for granted.

if I lived with my boyfriend and I was just doing nothing all day then I would have dinner made for him when he got home but now a days were more career aimed than housewive! I don't think I should have to run after a guy cook his dinner or whatever and he shouldn't have to run after me if I want something ill do it if he wants something he can do it but yeah obviously now and then id do something for him and he do something for me ! I'm not old fashioned at all I don't want to be a housewive I don't want a man to do a "mans" job I'm capable of it myself and I don't want a guy to buy my house and get married or whatever I want my own house that I got by myself and maybe ill share it with a guy if I love him but I'm ms independent and I want to have something to show for and be proud

Well, okay, if I'm home all day with the kids and my guy's at work, then yeah, I should have dinner ready for him when he gets home. But if my hubby works until 5 and so do I, and we get home at the same time, then I'm not going to have dinner ready of course! The whole "fetch me my supper, woman!" thing was a product of many millennia when men always worked and women always stayed at home. It's different now. We work too.

Something like getting him a beer: if I'm up, sure. But if we're both sitting there watching TV and he asks me to get him a beer, why can't he get it? I wouldn't ask him to fetch me a lemonade in the same situation. If he's just got done from mowing the lawn and I've been relaxing inside, okay, maybe. But I'm not going to marry a guy to be his mother or his nursemaid, his cook or his cleaning lady. I'm marrying him to be his life partner.

It's give and take.for example, while I might like him to lift some heavy things, I wouldn't have a problem being the one who gets up at 3 am to feed the baby or who fixes dinner most of the time once we're both home. We could take turns mowing the lawn and work together to shovel the walk.that's how my parents do it. But I'm not planning on being a housewife either. I'm going to have a job too, and thus maybe I had a long hard day at work too. Oh, and I don't expect guys to open doors for me or pay for dates all the time. I think that it's a nice gesture to do so, but to expect it is an outdated concept now that most women hold jobs of their own both before and after marriage.

It should be 50/50 all the way, in my opinion. I shovel snow for my fiance some days. Some days he does. Some days I cook dinner, other days he does. Sometimes he pays, sometimes I do.

It would irritate me if it was just expected that I'd have dinner set up for him, especially since I work too!

My fiance also agrees that he would be pissed if I ever expected for him to do things for me, other than to of course just be there for me.

I expect him to be an equal part, I expect him to treat me as I treat him, I expect for him to remember that yes, I am a woman, and I am a person, that said, I DESERVE to be treated equally with him in every way.

Now of course if something is too heavy for me to lift, he lifts it, but it goes both ways, when he injured himself awhile back, I carried things for him, and on days when he has his hands full and mine are empty I gladly take some of his things for him and help him out.

How about you go fetch yourself a beer while I cook?

There isn't any rule that everything should be 50/50 in all relationships. This is depended upon what kind and what type of person you are with.

I'm in a relationship where things are pretty much 50/50. Both of us are pretty independent. Before I moved in with him, I lived by myself. I made my own money, paid bills, paid for my education without anybody's help. I have mowed lawn in the summer in Texas when it was 104 out, and I have shoveled the snow to dig myself out of the house in Buffalo, NY. This hasn't changed even after I moved in with him, we share these responsibilities without having to planning them out. Same as money. I pay sometimes and he pays other times. I like doing my things but at times, I like to be spoiled too.

I wouldn't put this out on the table and say everything should be 50/50. And I don't have to. This relationship feels right. No drama, no bickering and throwing knives at each other, I believe this is going to last for a while. As long as two people come together and willing to meet at each other's needs, there's no standards of right and wrong. However, this is only my point of a view.

yeah I totally agree with you I think the girls have more perks than guys, free drinks at the bar, they don't have to pay for drinks, we don't have to do hard things because we might "hurt ourselves" but trust me anything a guy can do I can do just as good.

There are some of us who still are old fashion in certain ways. And then there are some of us who are hip in today's society. Depending upon the situation, I would get my boyfriend a beer and cook for him. Not a problem there. And he would hold that door open for me. We go 50/50 sometimes when we go out eat. We are both making a living and having a little help is good to have.

hahaahha.no harsh comments?

No wonder my female friends always ask---where are the real single men?

You cannot say is 50/50; once you have kids for example, a lot of the stuff that women do, men can never even try to do; for example, waking up in the middle of the night because you heard the baby cry, and you know it's hunger pains etc.as my male daddy friends have told me, dude, no clue how in the world they even know that, but those are the mother instincts that men don't have.
as far as dates and such, yes, a lot of women expect they should be treated for dinner, dates and such, and a lot take advantage of these benefits; that's why sometimes I refused to go on dates with these women.
As far as women preparing dinner---well, it's all personal choice; I have a girlfriend that loves to cook for me, and I have to tell her to chill out; my ex girlfriend hated cooking cause she thought she was a terrible cook; anyway, for both of them, I also cooked, and there were never any hostilities but again, lots of women out there that would say, you're such a masochist if you asked for a meal when you come home; just stay away from those. Most of the times, they got other issues :)

I think it's more of a 60/40 relationship all the time. No matter what us men try to do to please our women they are never completely satisfied. And when women get on our case they don't let up until we show some sort of emotion. In arguments, I already know I will never win even if I know for sure that I am right so I let the women win just so that I can continue on with my day. That and make-up sex is fantastic. When my woman gets home from work or we arrive at the same time, I'm the one cooking the dinner, not because I have to but because I enjoy cooking. Every day chores to get tiring so once in awhile I tell my woman to just take a break and let us enjoy the day, the chores will always be there so might as well relax and go out on the town for awhile. After a short argument and make-up sex, we finally go out and enjoy the day together.