I love you, I love you not?

well drinking makes men say and do very strange things. It's the only answer I have for why I sometimes wake up naked in my back yard at 2:30 in the afternoon with a box of crayons, a velvet elvis painting, and a bottle of barbecue sauce laying next to me. Learn from my example here. Men fear rejection. So he maybe spoke a little too soon, and is going a little too fast. good job on your part for sticking to your guns. That's awesome. Just let him know that your more assertive with your feelings, and that you want to take time for this relationship to develop in a positive and healthy manner. And take from me. The grass is always greener on the other side. good luck! and make good choices - j

I think that you showed him the gravity of the words that he said to you by asking him "how he knew"

the reason that he gave you."I cannot stop thinking about you". is not a product of love.

Love is not just a feeling, it's a state of mind combined with a choice to love somebody for exactly who they are regardless of any circumstance. This choice has to be made every minute of every day.

I am going to venture a guess and say that you've been dating for under 2 years. This is a normal mindset of a 2 year or younger couple. It isn't until after about 2 years that the initial relationship hormones released by the brain have worn off, and you find out what you've built with the other person in the relationship.

I agree with you. "Love" is over used between couples this day in age. the proof is that the divorce rate is about 60% in America. That sounds to me like an over use of the word "Love"

When you truly love somebody.It will be the kind of love that consumes you, it will be the kind of love that is unchangeable, unfaltering, unfailing, and stays with you the rest of your life.

but again, it's not a thought, it's not the thought of another person, it's a complete mindset, so ingrained into you that there is no separation between your old self, and this new "Love".

Two thought s come to mind. One is that he was disappointed that you couldn't say the same thing at that time. it's not a very realistic expectation, but still a disappointment. The other is that when asked, he had to rethink what he feels. Is thinking about someone all the time enough to qualify as love? Let him know in some way that you care and you're not headed anywhere else, but that it's just early to be thinking that. Not wrong, just too fast. Unless your'e 24 and have been dating him 9 years or so, he should be OK with that.

He is upset that you have not told him that you loved him back. So, he feels like he loves you maybe more than you love him. I can understand your point of view. Because a lot of people say they love you, but do not mean it. So, sit down and talk to him and let him know that you care for him alot, but right now you are not comfortable saying I LOVE YOU. Then if he is understanding he should be alright. I've had a lot of mean tell me that they loved me, but it was just a word. Because most of them ended up cheating on me or doing me wrong.