Ok, so my girlfriend and I have been dating for one year, but less than 3 months being physically together. Meaning. this is a long distance, she lives 1.5 hours away from me, some people might think it isn't, but it is. If I want to see her, I need to take a 1.5 hours boat ride across the sea to see her. We love each other a lot or else I don't think we would've held onto this relationship until this very day. Sometimes, I think I care more about her than myself. seriously. We met in high school before graduation, and in less than one month, we had to separate, because we applied to different post-secondary schools. She is hopefully transferring over to my school this upcoming September.
Anyway, lets get to what I truly want to ask and know. What I want to know is. do you think it is important and necessary to tell your significant other when you go out with your friends at night. to the club, bar, someone's house or anywhere at NIGHT time. In my opinion, I think it is crucial. like. at least call and let your SF know that you'll be out tonight. with your friends. at (the name of the place). even if they don't get into a lot of detail. Some people might think this is controlling, but I don't think it is controlling one bit. It just means you care a lot right? Like, at least you know where she is. doing what. and if anything happens, you can help. Whenever my girlfriend goes out with her friends to a club, bar or someone's house. I worry, because it isn't always safe. it is night time. etc. What do you guys and girls think? Is it important to let your SF know that you'll be out for the night?. like, call before you go out. etc. I find it very irresponsible when you don't let someone know, especially your SF when you go out at night, because he/she is going to worry. You might think that. well, if I don't tell him/her. than they won't worry. well, if you don't tell him/her. and one night. something does happen. if your SF cares. wouldn't it hurt even more? Is it really that hard to give your girlfriend/boyfriend a call before you go out. especially at night? Just to tell them. you're going to be out. everything is going to be fine, just so they can feel more relax. Like, give him/her a call when you go home or even before you go home. what I am trying to say is. just call. Is it really that hard? If you're not doing anything behind their back. why not call? What do you guys think?
I just want to bring up another question, do you think it is 'ok' to let your SF go clubbing with his/her friend. I just want to know what you guys/girls think.
SF = significant other, just for your info. if you didn't know. just making sure. hah.
I think it all depends on the person personally. Like me. I let my SF know where I'm going and what I'm going to do and so on. that's just what I prefer. A girl could take it as you trying to be controlling though if you ask her to tell her where she's going, with who and so on every night.
I think its fine for my SF to go clubbing with either sex. I trust my SF enough to know he wouldn't cheat on me and if he did then we were not meant to be together.
Personally, I'm kind of a lazy guy and if my girlfriend required this of me- I'd be annoyed. It might cause some tension and make the other person made having to feel like she's "checking in" all the time. That's how it would seem to me anyways.
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