I've met a barman at my local 6 months ago now. we both liked each other and I really started to fancy him then the bombshell I find out he had a girlfriend. I've tried so hard to ignore my feelings and the truth is we hardly know each other but I'm smitten. I haven't told him or made advances but I know he knows. he gets jealous if I talk to other men and stares into my eyes to the point where it gets uncomfortable. we live in the country and this pub is the only means of entertainment for miles and I don't drive. I've tried to ignore what I feel but its just getting stronger. I've never tried to steal anyones man before and have turned down many because they have girlfriend but with him I'm finding it almost impossible. I know he feels something for me but not sure what. please without judgment can anybody help. should I blank it should I talk to him. I'm going mad. he brings her in sometimes and tries to get me jealous which is cruel to both her and me. what does this guy want from me. and to add insult to injury I'm 12 years older then him. please help.
You are infatuated with someone who may or may not be able to live up to half the expectations you have for him. The fact that he would behave like this with you means he doesn't respect you, or the girlfriend enough to treat either of you like the awesome, wonderful, creatures God made you to be. I would suggest you drop him, since he is not mature enough to earn one woman's love, but prefers to play childish games, living in the realm of infatuation.
Your right in giving him the boot although he don't flirt with anyone else as its a country pub and full of old people and locals. he is actually quite quiet and usually just gets on with his job. this eye contact thing he keeps doing is making me very uncomfortable though. do you think I should ask him to stop? thanks - 3 months ago
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I meant to also add do you think I should stop going there also - 3 months ago
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If he is making you uncomfortable, he is not doing his job. I would ask him to stop, see if he does, then stop going there if he doesn't respect your request. - 3 months ago
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ok part of a barmans job is to flirt and make you think he likes you same as it is for a girl working behind a bar as I know because I work in a nightclub on weekends and a pub on week days! I would personally advise you to not even bother thinking about trying him! if he did like you enough he would say goodbye to his girlfriend and hello to you I'm not being mean here I'm simply being honest as my guy barman friends do this and send out the mixed signals to women all of the time
Your right in giving him the boot although he don't flirt with anyone else as its a country pub and full of old people and locals. he is actually quite quiet and usually just gets on with his job. this eye contact thing he keeps doing is making me very uncomfortable though. do you think I should ask him to stop? thanks - 2 hours ago
Question Asker I meant to also add do you think I should stop going there also - 2 hours ago - 3 months ago
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No if you like the pub and its most likely your local right? you shouldn't stop going just because of him like I wouldn't stop going to my local just because of someone.but I do think you should just try forget about him and you ever been together! - 3 months ago
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
For a first date, I would definitely go somewhere where its crowded, Since I don't want any pressure. I would wear a pair of jeans, and a nice shirt, maybe heels. The date would end with me in my bed, and him in his. Maybe a kiss on the cheek, depending on how good the date was.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
He will know me from A to M, If he was a good enough date to listen. And of course, he would notice my craziness, and randomness
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