My husband and I have been together for a decade, married for 3 years. We have had several fights about my weight, which is 140 (I'm 5'9", so it's still considered healthy). Six months after we got married, he said he wasn't sexually attracted to me because I was getting fat. And just last year, he said he would sleep with other women if I ever got really fat. Now I'm 5 months pregnant, and terrified of gaining any weight. I also struggled with an eating disorder for years, and I'm worried I won't be able to keep it in check with his comments. Why is he being so insensitive?
There are other things that bother me too. We got pregnant right after he came back from a deployment. At my first doc appointment, they told me I had an STD, but he denies cheating on me. I don't think he's having an affair, but I don't trust that he didn't have a one night stand in the ports he visited. He also does things to me physically (non-sexually) that I really hate, and despite my requests to stop, he continues to do them. I'm finding it hard to trust him physically and to share any feelings with him.
Any suggestions on what I should do? I never thought I'd be the stupid girl who can't make relationship decisions. I've always known what to do, but I just feel so confused right now.
This sounds like a seriously abusive relationship, and even though you are having a child with him, I would say that you need to probably get away from him. After all, if he is like this to you, he probably won't be any better to your child.
Being emotionally abusive, plus physically is serious. Not only that, you have an STD now so he obviously has no concern for you, or your wellbeing.
You seem to be very complacent with what he is doing to you, which is very typical of women in your situation, but you do need to get out of this relationship. If not for you, then for your soon to be baby.
I would also advise seeking professional help to help you with getting out of this relationship, and also about your eating disorder (which can have devastating effects on your child).
I wish you the best and hope you are able to work through this.
I agree 100% with this. He is abusing you verbally, emotionally and physically. Please utilize the resources available to you at no cost through the military and get away from this situation for your health and for the health of your unborn child. - 9 months ago
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jjellybean
(Age:Under 18)
When: More than a year ago
Girl you deserve better than that. If not for you then for your baby! You know they say in them vows 'for better or worse, sickness and health'. THAT MEANS IF YOU WEIGH 110 OR 360. Also don't change for him, I'm 5'9 and weigh 142 and I'm healthy and slim. So seeing this on me girl give him up! You deserve better.
Calling you fat Saying he's not sexually attracted to you Saying he'll sleep with other women, 'Uncomfortable' behaviour towards you...
Seriously I wanna punch this guy he sounds horrible. I'm worried that you're having a baby with this man who sounds like he's two seconds away from an affair? But anyway, I suggest that you really TALK to him, tell him that if you're going to have his kid, then he better shape up and decide whether he's going to support you and love you the way you deserve, or whether he's going to leave you and have his bloody affair! Straight up is the only way Darling, Good Luck to you!
Don't get me wrong -- I love my boyfriend of 8 months. He's great to me, we get along, and have a lot in common, and I know he loves me. But things in...
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