Would you stay married for your kids?

I'd stay married regardless of kids, problems can be worked out, marriage is sacred.

Don't stay in a marriage with problems "for the kids".

My parents tried that and I lay in bed listening to them arguing every single night.

29 years ago and 7 years of marriage, with a 2 year old and 9 month old.Divorce seemed like the only answer to end the verbal abuse. But, today I would say try as hard as you can to work it out. I regret divorcing, because it is not the person that you married that is wrong.it is the type of personality that you are attracted to. I dated 3 other men the same in different ways, but still the same. My second marriage is to a man 20 years older then me, And he is still like my first husband. Who, you guessed it, is just like my father. So I always say try to make it work, because you will only change it to a different man, with slightly different problem. Great question. Don't marry until you know what you want in your own life. Divorce is ugly with or without children. Mine are fine, with a tense relationship with their absentee father.

I would definitely keep trying. That is unless, there is serious abuse going on in the relationship. It does more harm than good to expose your children to that. A lot of people give up too easily when problems arise. However, marriage is for better or worse, and people tend to forget the worse part. Problems are normal, that is why it is important to try, try, and keep trying until they are fixed! This is especially true when kids are involved, but also holds true even otherwise.

if it was just arguments that we were having I would stay because that is the normal thing when you are with someone getting on each others nerves having arguments or whatever

but if it was something like he cheated ,i didn't love him no more or he hit me then I would dump his arse because children can be happier when parents split as there is no more conflict in the home

I would but it depends on the situation. I wouldn't stay with someone who is abusive (verbally or physically).
Kids add a whole new dimension to marriage. There is more at stake. Try to work out the problems. (I know this can be very hard.)
I think that kids deserve decent role models and they will base their feelings of love and marriage from yours.

split up. in the long run its better for the kids to have two happy homes then one unhappy home. My boyfriends parents fell out of love when he was 12 and they didn't split up till he was 17. but during that time that they were staying together for the kids, it was hurting him. They never did anything as a family. his parents yelled at each other all the time because they were unhappy. It just didn't work out. So splitting up is the best way if there is no way that things can be fixed.

I wouldn't stay in a marriage just for the sake of the kids. I think my kids would cause me to try harder than if I didn't have them, but I think just as much "damage" can come from staying in an unhealthy relationship as from a divorce. I do wish that when marriages fall apart, that both parents would put aside their bad feelings a little and think about what they are doing to the kids. It's hard enough when the relationship just isn't working anymore, but do we really need to use the kids as weapons or try to turn the children against the other parent or disappear completely because we can't stand the custodial parent?

Problems can be resolved if you have two willing partners.

Divorce should be a last resort but never stay in a relationship for the kids especially if there are unhealthy behaviors going on between husband and wife.

The mistake that occurs when some people divorce is they don't take into account that the kids are also going through the divorce with you. Also, often one parent who moves out which is usually the father doesn't help to support the kids and doesn't see the kids for regular visitation.

I divorced but I was lucky my children's father helped support them and was always involved in their lives.

It all worked out and I have healthy young adult children who are doing great.