So John and I are friends and we both like each other I believe more than friends (I know because when I was talking to this guy I just met in Cancun he got all jealous and kept bothering my mom by asking who I was talking to and couldn't stop staring). So we still talk at least three to four times a week. Well yesterday I told him I was going to be in his area (I'm in Ohio, he is in Alabama) and asked if he wanted to get together, he said yes, we will figure something out and he had to go because a customer came in. Later that day I text him the following "I don't know why but lately I can't stop thinking about you, john" and he never replied, at all. We work together so unfortunately I had to call him to tell him about a program and he didn't pick up. He always calls me back and this time he didn't. when he calls and I miss the call and I call him back, he will actually pick up the phone while he is working out to tell me he will call me back later, he never used to take his phone with him while lifting weights. So now I just regret even telling him this and I feel like if he is not going to reciprocate then I need to move on. Am I right or wrong? Thanks for all your advice in advance, I really need it guys!
It definitely sounds like it's possible he's ignoring you. I can't say for sure why he is doing that. He may be a little shocked and if you give him a few days he'll come around, he may be upset and weirded out by what you said, or he may just really be busy and has no time to respond.
I definitely know the feeling of regretting saying something, but it's better to have been honest with your feelings than to have continued the friendship in a onesided limbo that hurt you constantly. As of now we still don't know what's going on, so don't think all hope is lost. You've got to wait to see if he responds.
Give it a few more days, if you don't hear from him, then.it looks bad. But for now it's only been a day or two days, right? He'll eventually have to talk to you if you work with him, so just hold out, and be proud you were honest with your feelings! Not many girls can do that.
LOL he is a little bit socially challenged and he is from a small town so he is not used to city women. I agree though you made me feel really good about at least saying something to him and at least is he doesn't respond or reciprocate, then I know it was never meant to be. Thanks so much, Hercules. I will let you know if he calls. I know he won't call over the weekend because he has a wedding to go to...oh no...do you think that's why he might be freaked out? - 2 months ago
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It's possible. It's also possible he was abducted by aliens. Damn aliens... - 2 months ago
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LOL - 2 months ago
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I guess you'll know for sure in a few days, so just hold out till then. : ) - 2 months ago
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We talked but he said absolutely nothing about the text and I didn't want to bring it up because obviously it was not meant to be so I am doing my best to get him out of my mind and move forward with a man that is actually going to take action. - 2 months ago
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You could still be friends with him? If you want to move on too, though, that is perfectly okay. If you start ignoring him, do him the favor of telling him you aren't interested in him anymore, so you don't do the exact same thing he did to you. - 2 months ago
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I'm not too sure what to do there. We talked more and all the feelings came out and he told me he is not ready for marriage and kids, which the only thing I asked was if he had feelings for me more than a friend, so I'm not sure where marriage came into play on that one. For now, I just tell him I am busy and can't talk, he knows it's bs, but I can't talk to him without wanting to cry because he keeps bringing it up and I want to move on with it, nothing is going to change so what is the point talk - 2 months ago
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My heart aches for the fact I am ignoring him but I have to get over him and that is the only way I know how to. I'm not too sure what to say to him. - 2 months ago
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Tell him you only wanted to date. Tell him it hurts too much to talk to him.
You need to tell him these things. It isn't fair to him to just ignore him and do what everyone hates to have happen to themselves.He'll keep contacting you unless you tell him exactly what is going on . So end it now, or let it bleed out. - 2 months ago
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