What does he really want?

ok. I think your friends are right when they say that you should dump him. if he really was into you he wouldn't be having second thoughts about you. he wouldn't be choosing between you and his ex. you would be his number one, his one and only. this guys seems like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. I know you have strong feelings for him but do you really want to be with someone who's going to keep on thinking that he may or may not want to be with you, when you are so positively certain that there's no one else but him? relationships are a 2 way thing. you have to receive the same feelings back, otherwise you're only going to keep on getting played and hurt.

before you start convincing yourself that you're so invested in him, ask yourself, what kind of guy do you want to be with? when you picture this, try not to put a face to the guy but just think of his characteristics, like do I want a nice guy who'll treat me well or a guy who's a player and is unsure of what he wants but is exciting?

i don't know if he's your first bf, but if he is, I know it's tough to just let it go. I know it'll seem like the world will come crashing down and nothing that people say or do can make you think otherwise. but you're wrong because even though you're sitting on your bed and burying your tears in your pillow, the world will still keep moving. your ex will still be doing whatever he's doing. so ask yourself, why should you be miserable when he's having such a ball without you? I know it doesn't seem like things will get better but they will. you just have to accept the fact that he's not who seems to be. you deserve much better. just use this as an experience to learn from and use it to reflect on what you want in your future relationships. trust me, this guys isn't the end all be all. just another ugly toad that you have to kiss before you get to Prince Charming.

so chin up, and just focus on you. if he come crawling back, don't take him back because he'll keep doing the same over and over again. it's a never ending vicious cycle. just be glad to be rid of him. this boy is trouble!