Does anyone else ever feel this way?

Life is full of people that will come and go. Some will leave, some will be sent away, some will be pushed away, and some will die. But we are blessed by every life that touches are. Who we are friends with, who we are raised by, and all of the people that we come into contact daily help to mold us into the people we are. Instead of regretting those that have gone, count yourself blessed to have the relationships you have had. They have made you stronger and more of the person you are.

Further more, everyone makes mistakes every day. If we only allow ourselves to focus on the way people disappoint us, then we show no grace in our love and friendship. We need to show understanding to those we love when they mess up, so that when we mess up, they are just as willing to forgive us.

I encourage you to let go of the fear you have of commitment, and start focusing on all the good things you have taken out of each of these relationships, and grow from that. I'm guessing that ou love your father. It sounds as though you had respect and love for your youth minister. Your preacher you must have respected, or it wouldn't bother you so much that he messed up. But he obviously has a problem he is trying to learn from. And as for the guy you like.forget him.sounds to me like he is missing out on a great girl. You don't want man that puts you second, you want a man that loves you so much you are always first. You deserve that.

Don't get sour over these past relationships, but instead, learn from them and use them when you do search for the qualities in a man that you know you are wanting. In the end, you will be blessed with a keeper.

Girl, I completely understand what you're going through. About 3 years ago. I was in the same predicament. I thought my whole world was tumbling down. My dad cheated on my mom. He was a truck driver. He had moved clear across the country and pretty much started a "new life" with another woman. I found out and was devastated. Not so much because he was gone but because my mother was soo torn up. She was loved this man to death and supported him and EVERYTHING he did. And my mom is a very strong woman. So to see her crying like that killed me. And then she had no idea because he made me promise not to tell her until he could talk to her first. And then when he did come home he came at a time when he knew that we all would be away at school and work. He cleared out of his things. So we came home to all of his belongings gone. Anyhow, it was a difficult time because we had just changed churches and were getting aquainted with everyone. I was trying to adjust to my first year of college. Good news though. Prayer changes things. My family prayed for that man(my dad) like our lives depended on it. And God brought him back to us. Our relationship with him has been a lot better. But I've noticed that I have problems trusting guys and relating to them now. I have some inner anger that surfaces sometimes randomly whenever a guy or my dad does something that reminds me of my dads' old ways. ya know. SO my advice is that you gotta forgive him and the other guys that have done wrong against you. If you don't it will make you sick and drive you crazy. God hasn't forgotten you. He has someone special for you darling!

What's with the questions like this tonight? Lol. I've been through a LOT of crap in my life. If you really want to hear all the gory details you can message me or something and I will tell you privately. I don't really have a problem talking about all this stuff with people anymore but I just don't feel like posting it in such a public arena, lol. Anyway, I have been through a LOT of crap in my life like I said. It made it really hard for me to trust anyone. Not just guys, but ANYONE. Created a lot of problems in my relationships too. I was pretty much of the same opinion. I said it all the time. "Why bother getting close to anyone if they are just going to leave , die, or betray me?"

I did date, just not particularly successfully. I mean I dated a lot. But I just didn't get close to guys and may longest relationship was like 4 months. Until my husband. And after about 3 years, when we were starting to plan our wedding I cheated on him and almost blew everything. I cheated because I'm an idiot and I figured maybe I could drive him away. I mean since he was going to leave me eventually anyway, might as well control when it happens right? Then I totally freaked because it worked and I lost him. During that time I realized that even if I did lose him, it was worth it. I loved him enough and all the good times we shared together were worth any pain that might come if I did lose him one day. And it really is.

Since you haven't really dated, I have to assume you haven't really been in love either. So it's harder to appreciate. You know the whole cliche "It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." Having your heart broken hurts more than is even imaginable. But the joy that comes from love is so worth the risk. Cheesy answer I know, but that's how I feel. Lol.

i know how you feel. My mom and dad got divorced when I was 5 and when I was 10 he got remarried and moved to Virginia. I am 15 now and haven't seen him since the only thing that I can tell you is to find something that will take your mind off of it or do what I did and write I find that writing is a way to release all kinds of feeling. The other way I deal with it is by listening to music and just hanging out with my friends, I know you probably want to hear that all of the pain will just go away and that you will be better but there is no way to fill that hole in your heart and I am sorry that you have gone through so much but I just want you to know that you are not alone and that there are other people who have been through the same things as you and we all know how you feel and understand that it is tough to go through,