I've been dating a guy for 4 years, our anniversary is today actually) but I still don't know if he is the one. I love him like crazy, but there are things about him that I absolutely cannot stand. He isn't really the same person that I fell in love with, he got older (he's 33 and I'm 24). He always gets tired around 11pm or midnight. And he's the best debater I've ever seen (we argue a lot) and I think he may be emotionally abusive (we weren't having a lot of sex for a while because he got "tired" and I approached him about it one day and he said that I'm the the one with the issue and completely turned it around on me) and I tried a drug ONCE and I told him about it and he called me human trash. And he has never to this day been able to get over my sexual history, so what if I was a little promiscuous in my past? It had nothing to do with him, I didn't even know him when it happened and it had no negative affect on me whatsoever. I found out he had a profile on match.com a few weeks ago and he said that it wasn't what it seemed and it was some stupid thing he did. So my question is, shouldn't I know after FOUR years if he is the one?
I feel that is the one is a little uncertain. However, if you are with a man you feel is the one, I would say that in my experience, you will fight about trivial things, you will get angry with each other, but in the long run, you will feel a need to be near each other and to talk to each other regularly. If you don't fight or get angry with the other person, then it is not real. You should feel empty when you not on the same page as this person, you should have many similar likes and dislikes....if you don't fit this then you might re-evaluate your situation.
Sounds to me like you already know! If in 4 years he can't get over what happened in your past then he never will. I only saw one thing that you said about him that was good (that you love him like crazy) but that could even be that you're just used to him and comfortable. I've been with a guy who was emotionally abusive and trust me everything you just said is exactly what I went through. And the match.com thing, who just does that, unless they want something from it. I mean come on it's a dating site and he has a girlfriend why would he just have a profile on their. I don't know sweetie, my advice is he's not the one for you, you are outgoing and someone who wants to be active, with him being a little older than you, he's already tired of that lifestyle.
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When: More than a year ago
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