Hi, I've been dating the same girl for about three years. She is a virgin and I have respected that. I've been holding off on sex with her but am getting kind of impatient. I'm in love with her and pretty sure she feels the same way about me but don't want to rush her into anything she is not ready for. How long should I continue to wait? Also, I don't want her to feel pressured, so is there a way to bring it up in a way that doesn't make her feel that I am pressuring her or only want sex from her?
You have waited 3 years already? Well I'm not sure how I feel about that. There are two people in a relationship and it sounds like her needs are being met in that your relationship has not gone sexual, but what about your needs? How long are you together? This is unnatural. When two people love and trust each other, they make love. Plain and simple. HOw long is she going to make you wait. It might just be eternity. You need to talk to her. And don't worry you sound like a nice guy, who hasn't put any pressure on her, you must love her. Is she waiting for a ring on her finger maybe? I wish you all the best with this.
You would wait forever - when you truly love - and as you say you do - you are very patient and respectable no matter what! I say wait - don't question her, don't rush her and definitely don't pressure her into anything! When she'll want it - trust me she'll be more than willing to jump your bones!
Tell her how you feel but reassure her you'll continue to be faithful and love her. You never know she may feel the same way. Regardless I commend you on holding out for 3 years. She's one lucky girl to have someone like you. There are many people that are into rushing and "taking a test drive' nowadays , but also there are still those left out there that value waiting and the old fashioned way of getting to know the root/soul of a person before the sex. Good luck.
In my opinion if you really do love the person then you should not have to rush her at all if you truly do love her then you would be able to wait forever. That is just my opinion so the best thing to do is just let her know how much you love her in other ways.
I think you're right - and maybe that's what she's waiting for - to see if I will love her forever - no matter what! What do you think? - 4 months ago
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I think you need to do something that shows her how much you really care like take her somewhere like on a romantic getaway or something like that - 4 months ago
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That would be a nice gesture - I can try doing something romantic for her like that. Thanks! - 4 months ago
I see nothing wrong with telling her that sex is important to you and that you don't want to wait until marriage to have it (assuming that's how you feel). At the very least this will probably bring out how she feels and then you'll be able to decide if her stance is something you can deal with or not. Personally I can't imagine holding out until marriage. Before I made that sort of commitment I'd want to have some idea that we were compatible in bed.
I can try to bring it up to her and find out if she's open to it or not. If not, I don't think it will change our relationship on my part but I'm not sure how she'll feel. Thanks for your comments! - 4 months ago
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What has happen to the good old fashion relationships? Why are you suggesting that she plans to have sex before marriage. Would this mean to you that she does not love you if she will not have sex? You are very lucky to have a woman like her. It is a fact that more sexual partners a person has, the more chance of getting STD's. Some of these STD's do not appear until long after a partner exposed you. I think you should enjoy the relationship and start thinking is this the person that you would like to marry. Sex is a very small part of a great and long lasting relationship, seems like you and your lady have a great foundation. If you are worried about sex issues or something in that nature. There are some great movies that can start a conversation of what if. And you are only talking about the emotions and issues in the movie. The last kiss.is a movie that touches on relationships, sex and responsibility. Good Luck
Thanks - what you said made a lot of sense. I guess I just was not thinking of marriage as of yet with her because I'm not quite sure if either of us is ready for that. However, I know that hormones can be a powerful thing on the male end of things! I will seriously think about it though. - 4 months ago
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You sound like a really caring guy!!! Remember, that sex is just as serious as marriage. Like a baby can be the "ready or not" results of moments of passion. I have seen a lot of oops I am expecting, after a heated passion. There are other ways taking care of urges, that are a lot less risky! You have a good mind! Best to you! - 4 months ago
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Thanks - yeah, I would never want to get her pregnant outside of wedlock because I see that as a disrespect to her and to the child. Also, I would never want her to have to take care of a child on her own, which is what she would probably try to do. Not to mention, it would probably ruin what we have now because I know she's not ready for a baby. - 4 months ago
You're 30-35 and you are waiting on this girl you have been with for 3 years? What the f***. Why haven't you married her? I'll do my best not to knock her views on sex. I'm sure she thinks it's some "sacred act." Marry her. or move on and quit torturing yourself.
Her virginity should be her decision.It seems like you feel like she owes it to you or something. Use your hand and spank it to some porn till the fricken pages stick together. Sex shouldnt be the only basis for a relationship.
I feel a bit bad for both you and the girl. (I thought you were in highschool when I first saw this post actually) I think if you think she deserves for you to wait for her, then you should. Unless you've been married, I don't think waiting for the right time to have sex is a bad thing. So yeah. I feel you should wait, and be a mature and responsible guy, but seriously, it's your choice.
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