Sooo, my girlfriend is one of those that cheated on her last boyfriend and was promiscuous, before we started dating, so naturally she still has a lot of guys calling her up or texting her trying to get a piece. I have seen it, and she has always said hell no to them, and she tells me she loves me and thinks we'll be together forever. I believe she thinks that, sometimes. But just recently I have had a couple doubts about her faithfulness, not really that she cheated, but she might be thinking about it. The other day she was looking through my cell phone. She's not very trusting of me. Even though she was the one who cheated before, and I grabbed hers and started looking through it, she grabbed it out of my hands and quickly deleted a text she sent to some guy. I didn't get to read it and she told me it was nothing. But she made a big deal about it when I was about to see it, so I doubt it. Also, she told me with her last boyfriend she would get off the phone with him, and then call a different guy and talk to him for a few hours, she used to talk to me all night on the phone but lately we'll get off the phone early cause she says she is really tired and gonna go to sleep, but then I know she still stays up till like 3 or 4 in the morning. She says she just can't fall asleep, but I can't be sure. Am I too untrusting, or is this what I'm afraid of? Help me out ladies!
Sounds like to me that if she isn't already cheating she's probably going to...usually 9 times out of 10 the one accusing the other of cheating is actually the one cheating themselves...seems like to me she wants her cake and eat it too..wants you for support but also wants to have fun too, don't think she's really ready for a relationship if she's acting like that. sorry :(
I agree with all of them - who answered she's cheating and kick her to the curb sorry boy but don't you know that once a cheater you're always cheater? Both ways ladies admit it!!! All she wants is just to have some fun - I don't even think she wants a relationship at all!!!
You need to raise the bar higher for yourself. This girl has issues that have nothing to do with you. She needs constant attention from other guys in order to feel good about herself. Listen, guys don't want to be friends with girls. They all want some action. And, they are just waiting for her to say yes. What I would do is move on with your life.
It sounds like she is most likely thinking about cheating on you. I think the best thing to do is to talk to her and to see if you can get something out of her. That text was obviously something that she didn't want you to see and that shows that what ever it said she doesn't want you to know anything about that. And if she has cheated before she can do it again.
As a former cheater with a somewhat promiscuous past, I can personally attest that people can and do change. I'm about to get married to a wonderful man I've dated for years, and have never ever looked back.
So, why did this change happen? Because my previous relationships had important aspects missing -- respect, equality, tenderness, etc -- I felt I needed to "supplement" my lacklustre relationships with other men. Other flings, etc.
My current relationship is built on all the things I need, and so I never look elsewhere, never even consider it. I'm happier than I've ever been.
So, all of this is to say that cheaters aren't always doomed to cheat. Talk to her about why she cheated, why she slept around -- what needs did her actions fill? And how are you doing at filling those very needs? That answer alone will be all the answer you need.
Well really the important thing in a relationship is comunication and trust and if she doesn't trust you then I think you should end it there are better girls out there for you I promise.
She is cheating on you and has a guilty conscience and that is why she was looking through your phone. Kick to the curd asap.
And to the former cheater above. You missed the quality you lack all together. It is called Integrity. Check it out sometime. I feel sorry for your new hubby.
It is just a matter of time that she will cheat on you. Instead of her cheating on you and then you gettind sad, mad, taking her back, whatever the drama it could be, I'd say drop her and don't even look back.
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